Ask anyone about their least favorite time during fertility treatment and their answer is almost always both surprising and universal. 

Waiting.

Action Versus Inaction

While no one actually enjoys the blood draws, vaginal ultrasounds, unexpected added appointments, semen production (well, maybe some do enjoy those!), surgical procedures, hysterosalpinograms (HSG), saline sonograms, egg retrieval, embryo transfer or other typical fertility treatment cycle accoutrements, there are two things they have in common.

  1. There’s action- you’re doing something!
  2. Because of the action being taken, it feels like you’re moving closer to your goal of becoming a parent.


Waiting, on the other hand, feels passive. It feels like you're doing nothing, getting nowhere, even if that isn’t really the truth. In the case of completing a fertility treatment cycle and waiting for the day to test for pregnancy, anxiety and excitement often vie for attention. Taking time off from fertility treatment, even if for therapeutic reasons, can feel defeating and exhausting. 

Yet, waiting can be instructive, even character building. Perseverance, for example, as described by Diane J. Wilson from Lifehack, “builds our emotional, physical and spiritual muscles so when we crack the goal we’ve been aiming at, we are equipped for the demands of the new season.”

3 Healthy (And Funny) Ways to Wait

  1. One woman’s approach to infertility and waiting? Amusing herself and others! Check out Hilariously Infertile which might help you find the laugh you feel like you left behind when you started this whole fertility business. 
  2. If you’re in the market for some summer reading and aren’t ready to be distracted by the usual summer fare, add Laughing IS Conceivable by Lori Shandle Fox to your list. This book provides insight on how to get through fertility treatment with your sense of humor AND your sense of self intact.
  3. Is snarky your go-to sense of humor? Check out these e-cards - it’s likely impossible not to #LOL.

Fertility Friendly Ways to Wait & Enjoy the Summer

Whether you are taking time off from fertility treatment cycles, waiting for results from a fertility treatment cycle, waiting to start a fertility treatment cycle, waiting until your insurance company approves your next fertility treatment cycle, saving up for your next fertility treatment cycle, or trying to decide what your next fertility treatment cycle should be- there is a common thread. Or two common threads.

1. You’re waiting. You may be actively waiting, or you may simply be waiting.

2. It’s taking up a lot of your time and energy to wait. Maybe you are the rare individual who can put it out of their mind for big chunks of time, but many of us can’t do that easily or effectively.

My suggestion? Try to distract yourself from fertility treatment as much as you can. Now, while I’m not a huge fan of distractions, (I’d also like to suggest meditation, yoga, and mindfulness as ways of clearing the clutter out of your mind), let’s recognize that summer offers unique and robust possibilities for pleasant and even healthy distractions.

Fun distractions. Remember fun?

There are great trails for hikes, beautiful beaches, fairs, museums, farmers markets and all sorts of adventures right in your hometown or very close by. If you are in Connecticut, a great place to start looking for distractions is  www.CTvist.com as they list various activities. If you are looking for hyper local, try checking out Patch or HamletHub in your town or a neighboring town that you are interested in visiting.

Distractions are Just Fine

Distractions serve a deeper purpose other than just getting your mind off waiting. Doing something that is interesting will engage your brain and create new connections and interest. Activities done with a partner or friend can also give you something to discuss outside of the dreaded fertility subject.

If only for a little while, find something to do that suits you and immerse yourself into it.

Would you please be kind enough to share with us your wonderful ideas?

One Suggestion in Newtown

I’ll go first.

One of my favorites, up in my neck of the woods, is the Edmond Town Hall Movie Theatre - a big, old style movie theatre that plays the movies I invariably missed a month or so ago. Best thing about the movie theatre, other than the big screen, large viewing area and fairly comfortable seats? It’s three bucks!

Insider review- As nice as everyone is at the concession booth, the popcorn gets a solid C+ from me. Not my favorite!

What’s Your Favorite?

Share with us what you like in your area. I’ll share it here, anonymously. We’d all like some summer fun distractions.

Especially while we’re waiting. 

Topics: Infertility, featured, TTC, infertility support, CT fertility clinic

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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