For no particular reason, no specific holiday, I am doing a call out to nurses.

Nurses in general, who give exceptional care from compassionate hearts.

fertility-nurseFertility nurses hold a special place in my heart.

My fertility doctors were, without exception, incredible doctors and great partners while I was in fertility treatment.

Ah, but my nurses.

They were the ones who called. Not just with test results. Not just with updates to treatment plans. Not just to reschedule procedures.

They called to see how I was. Even when I was pretty sure I had pushed them right over the edge with my neediness. You know what I mean, right? That seventh or seventeenth phone call of the day because I wanted to make REALLY sure that I understood something correctly? That email thread that went back and forth so many times it was impossible to guess what the original point had been? That kind of neediness.

Nurses – My Infertility Support

I was so worried about absolutely everything that I knew I had brought neediness to a whole new level.

Yet, still they called me. When I worried that I was fast becoming the most difficult patient in the history of fertility treatment, not only at their office but in the entire world, still they called me to see how I was. They reassured me that I was pretty much a standard patient in terms of phone calls, questions, emails and more. They actually laughed when I confessed to thinking I was the most needy patient ever. Yes, they laughed and after a moment, I laughed along with them.

Three Ways My Fertility Nurse Supported Me

Three ways my fertility nurses normalized my condition for me. Not the fertility piece.

The neediness piece.

  1. My fertility nurses created a safe place for me to ask my questions, admit I didn’t understand the answers and try again with a different question.
  2. Their calm demeanor and ability to listen and then tell me answers that I could understand made me realize that this wasn’t the first or thirty-first time that they heard the question and they really understood the answer.
  3. They communicated with me until I understood the answer. When they heard me hesitate and say yes, they asked more because it was important to them, to me and to my fertility treatment that I really understood. Not just said I understood because I was worried about winning the neediness prize.

These three pieces let me simmer down to a little less needy. Since being rushed through answers wasn’t my experience, I was able to fully absorb the information that I was receiving.

Big sigh of relief.

I actually understood what I needed to do, why I needed to do it, when I needed to do it, how I needed to do it.

Thank you to all the fertility nurses out there who take the time, energy, compassion and sense of humor that is needed for all of us needy infertility patients.

 

Thank you to the RMACT nursing team!

Akilah M

Alicia B

Brenda S

Brigitte A

Catherine G

Christina D

Eloise D.

Erika L

Jennifer M.

Jocelyn C.

Kathleen Y.

Kathy F.

Linda C.

Mary H.

Monica M.

Nora B.

Rachel L.

Sarah W.

Susy F.

Tara M.

 And Kirsten H., who was left out, but not forgotten. Five of her patients wrote to me to tell me of her omission! So sorry Kirsten. 

They are nurses who regularly give above and beyond their job descriptions. They are often on the phone after hours, on the weekends, late at night and more. They give and they give and they give.

So today, on this lovely, still winter day, I say thank you.

If you have a story of one of your favorite nurses that you would like to share with me, please email me at FertileYoga@gmail.com. If you would like, I can share it anonymously. 

Topics: Support

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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