Dancing with the Stars, otherwise known as DWTS. Not a show that I watch, but it came to my attention because my community was all abuzz about it the other day.
The community that I'm referring to is my FB page, which is a secret, hidden page, of women affected by infertility.
The Heartbreak of Miscarriage
The comments on this page ranged from "I was so touched by Nancy's willingness to talk about her miscarriages" to "Her courage in being open about her struggles were inspiring" to "I thought I was the only one who felt that broken" to "If she could hang in there like, so can I!".
It's truer than many of us realize- the sense of shame and brokenness that we feel when we either fail to become pregnant or cannot stay pregnant to give birth to a baby.
That shame often leads to becoming very quiet about what we're experiencing. We're often not open, not able or willing to discuss the heartache that we are going through.
We applaud Nancy Kerrigan for speaking out about her experience with years of miscarriage after miscarriage. Her personal story focuses on three important aspects of infertility; getting pregnant but being unable to carry a pregnancy safely to term, being unable to conceive and carry a baby after having done so successfully previously and finally, ultimately being successful in building your family.
Speaking Out About Pregnancy Loss
"Nancy told partner Artem about her difficulty staying pregnant — after the birth of her first child, Nancy had six miscarriages in eight years. She said that she felt like a failure that she couldn’t get pregnant — all that she and her husband wanted was a mess of kids, and though they already had one, it was hard to see that it couldn’t happen again for them. Nancy eventually went through IVF and had two more healthy, happy children, bringing a lovely ending to this family’s sorrow. It’s so important and wonderful, though, that Nancy decided to talk about this. Women have miscarriages all the time, but it’s not something that’s widely discussed in the media and even in close social circles."
Bustle got this just right- it is wonderful and important that Nancy decided to talk openly about her personal understanding of secondary infertility, miscarriage and finally success in having babies.
Resolve's National Infertility Awareness Week Theme- LISTENUP
And how appropriate as we approach National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW), with Resolve's theme of "LISTENUP", that we hear Nancy share what has been a tender and difficult personal history with us so that we can understand better how heartbreaking pregnancy loss and secondary infertility is.
LISTENUP could hardly be defined more clearly than the openness that Nancy Kerrigan demonstrated.
Big thank you to Nancy Kerrigan and to Resolve. Remember one more thing. Fertility treatment works a lot of the time.
And We're Taking Action.
Come join us on April 27 as we ask our legislators to "LISTENUP".