Orlando TragedyThere’s a crack in the enclosure that holds secrets about infertility. If you’re struggling with conceiving, you know about the secrets.

We don’t say them out loud- that’s how they stay secrets. They’re too scary. And it makes them too real to say them out loud.

I’m breaking the silence today.

Here’s one secret that we believe to be true.

We think infertility is the worst thing that will ever happen to us.

I wish that were true. Sometimes it is true and you or I will go on to live a life that is not affected deeply by other illnesses or disasters. Or tragedies. And maybe it’s also true that it’s about how we react and respond to the natural course of a life cycle that will color how we see our lives. It is expected that our parents will eventually die. We can hate it. We can do everything we can do to prolong their lives. Still, part of our life cycle, the ending part, is that we die. If we’re lucky? We die at a ripe old age and we are mourned by the younger generations. We die after having lived a life that suits us and that we feel satisfied with and we die in relative peace.

Infertility can be the worst thing that ever happens to you. I actually hope that’s true. And we are 1,000% here to help you through it, to conquer it. And then we will hope that it will be behind you as the worst part of your life.

This week, today, we are mourning the loss of people who did not die from old age. They died from the triple disease of hatred, ignorance and bigotry.

Nelba Márquez-Greene, LMFT was Ana Grace’s mother. Ana died in the Newtown tragedy. Her mother’s comments here will precede the names of those that died in Orlando this week.
“Orlando, I’m sorry that our tragedy wasn’t enough to save your loved ones.”

Remembering their names here today to honor their lives.

Stanley Almodovar III, 23 years old

Amanda Alvear, 25 years old

Oscar A Aracena-Montero, 26 years old

Rodolfo Ayala-Ayala, 33 years old

Antonio Davon Brown, 29 years old

Darryl Roman Burt II, 29 years old

Angel L. Candelario-Padro, 28 years old

Juan Chevez-Martinez, 25 years old

Luis Daniel Conde, 39 years old

Cory James Connell, 21 years old

Tevin Eugene Crosby, 25 years old

Deonka Deidra Drayton, 32 years old

Simon Adrian Carrillo Fernandez, 31 years old

Leroy Valentin Fernandez, 25 years old

Mercedez Marisol Flores, 26 years old

Peter O. Gonzalez-Cruz, 22 years old

Juan Ramon Guerrero, 22 years old

Paul Terrell Henry, 41 years old

Frank Hernandez, 27 years old

Miguel Angel Honorato, 30 years old

Javier Jorge-Reyes, 40 years old

Jason Benjamin Josaphat, 19 years old

Eddie Jamoldroy Justice, 30 years old

Anthony Luis Laureanodisla, 25 years old

Christopher Andrew Leinonen, 32 years old

Alejandro Barrios Martinez, 21 years old

Brenda Lee Marquez McCool, 49 years old

Gilberto Ramon Silva Menendez, 25 years old

Kimberly Morris, 37 years old

Akyra Monet Murray, 18 years old

Luis Omar Ocasio-Capo, 20 years old

Geraldo A. Ortiz-Jimenez, 25 years old

Eric Ivan Ortiz-Rivera, 36 years old

Joel Rayon Paniagua, 32 years old

Jean Carlos Mendez Perez, 35 years old

Enrique L. Rios, Jr., 25 years old

Jean C. Nives Rodriguez, 27 years old

Xavier Emmanuel Serrano Rosado, 35 years old

Christopher Joseph Sanfeliz, 24 years old

Yilmary Rodriguez Solivan, 24 years old

Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old

Shane Evan Tomlinson, 33 years old

Martin Benitez Torres, 33 years old

Jonathan Antonio Camuy Vega, 24 years old

Juan P. Rivera Velazquez, 37 years old

Luis S. Vielma, 22 years old

Franky Jimmy Dejesus Velazquez, 50 years old

Luis Daniel Wilson-Leon, 37 years old

Jerald Arthur Wright, 31 years old

Today, we acknowledge the incredible loss of those lives and all the lives that they touched. We send love and support to partners and spouses, parents, children, siblings, friends. We mourn for the way in which they died. We mourn for their unfinished lives. We mourn for the hatred and ignorance that continues to perpetuate these tragedies.

Topics: Loss

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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