Here are some musings from RMA of Connecticut's, Ladies Night In Facebook page, which is a hidden page and is invitation only. This page is sacred in a sense, as it's where our patients can share with each other in perfect confidence.
We thought we'd publish a recent conversation on the page (shared here with permission, of course) which resonated with many members and prompted quite a bit of dialogue. If you’ve had a few of these thoughts roll through and wondered if maybe you were a little crazy, please realize you’re not. Not crazy...and certainly not alone.
The Secrets to Getting Pregnant
Here’s the post that started the conversation:
"Hey Ladies! I finally learned the secret for getting pregnant! According to my neighbor's daughter (she's 40 with 2 daughters), I just can't think about it. If I think, I won't get pregnant. If I don't think about it, and forget, I'll get pregnant! Why didn't I think about this before??? Going to try this month and I'm sure it will happen! **big sarcasm**
I'm laughing so I won’t cry..."
"I def won't think about it when I'm poking myself w/ a 1.5" needle!"
"Yes, I've heard this secret countless times. It's usually followed up with 'if you adopt a child, then you'll get pregnant.'"
"What great advice! Backed by years of research and countless medical professionals, I'm sure."
"Also, you should go on vacation. That's what everyone keeps telling me."
"That's probably the most common piece of advice that I get. **big eye roll** But how can you stop thinking about something you eat, sleep and breathe for?? Ugh that's my one biggest complaint, if I am not meant to be a mother why is this desire so strong?? I wish it would go away if it's not meant to be, instead of living with a broken heart..."
"I get you, I really get you. I live like this, too. I look around and see everyone pregnant and with kids and I think: 'am I supposed to feel this empty forever?'"
"I wonder if the same rule applies to getting fat. If I don’t think about my butt getting big while eating Pizza Hut, then it won’t??"
It gets funny. It gets poignant. It gets sad. It gets frustrated. All that and more.
Peer support, friends...we couldn’t, and wouldn’t, want to do any of this without them.
If you’ve never tried a Ladies Night In and cannot imagine laughing about your infertility, come check it out. There may be tears, but guaranteed, there will be laughter, too. And you just might leave, feeling not so alone.
We host peer support groups once a month at three of our RMA of Connecticut locations. They are free and open to the public...please join us.
Learn more about Ladies Night In here.