Lauren Conrad, as reported by ENews, blogs about what NOT to ask or say to pregnant women.
Lauren Conrad Gives Infertility Advice
Um, did I forget this was a blog for people trying to become pregnant? Not pregnant yet? Hoping to becoming pregnant?
No, I did not forget that.
In fact, I was delighted to read her blog and find that she included this:
"On the off-limits list? Don't pry, don't touch, don't ask. Conrad kicked off her set of rules by advising readers not to be nosy about when a couple plans to get pregnant. "Any questioning, pressure, or even hinting about it usually just makes the couple uncomfortable," she wrote. "You also never know if someone may be privately struggling with fertility or has suffered through a recent miscarriage."
Bravo Lauren Conrad, bravo. And while it's tempting to start asking, "did she experience any of these things? Is this why she's mentioning it?", that's her point, isn't it?
What Not to Say
Don't ask. Don't make assumptions. Don't be nosy just to satisfy your own curiosity. Your curiosity is not more important than someone else's pain.
Infertility is painful and frustrating enough. Be a good friend and don't ask. Be a great friend and don't even hint around about it. Be the best friend and don't complain about your own pregnancy and children.
You have no idea how much your friend who might or might not be experiencing infertility or a miscarriage or other loss will appreciate it.