RMA of Connecticut would like to congratulate Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade on the birth of their daughter! What an exciting and joy filled time for them-to finally welcome their daughter after years of infertility and fertility treatment.
(VIA Gabrielle Union's Instagram)
And how very sad that they are facing criticism on the manner in which they handled their newborn baby and their gestational carrier. The relationship between the Wades and the woman who carried their baby is and should be, a private matter.
Whose daughter is it?
What is not under dispute is that this is their daughter. Gabrielle is the mother and Dwayne is the father. Holding her close, establishing skin to skin contact is precisely what is suggested for newborns where it’s not counter indicated. Why weren’t they applauded for doing that? Why wasn’t Mr. Wade commended for taking family leave to be with his newly formed family?
Two women weighed in on this topic. First, we have Regina Townsend* from Broken Brown Egg (a not for profit organization designed to raise awareness and generate support for women of color).
Regina Townsend of Broken Brown Egg
“The comments that the Wade's received regarding Kaavia's birth were saddening and ridiculous. What was most noticeable to me was that many people commented without once thinking that they could at all be offending or hurting their own friends and family members who are struggling in silence. I think the commentary revealed how much farther we have to go in terms of not only continuing to advocate for infertility awareness, but African American infertility awareness, and African American motherhood as a whole. This concept of what makes someone "a mother" or "THE mother" and the judgement hurled throughout it is a conversation we must have if we're going to continue breaking down stigmas."
-Regina Townsend of Broken Brown Egg
Oprah’s Soul Sunday's (full video provided below) interview with the couple inspired Vanessa from RMA of Connecticut to share this:
“If you have not seen Oprah’s (OWN) interview with Gabrielle Union and DeWayne Wade on infertility, you missed an amazing show. The strength, determination and commitment they had to extend their family was truly a blessing! I am very pleased and proud of how they broke down the barriers for people (women) of color! I have so much new found respect for them sharing their very personal and very sensitive experience.”
-Vanessa from RMA of Connecticut
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Regina Townsend is a professional librarian, health blogger and infertility advocate. She is passionate about bringing light to the struggle of infertility in the African American community and believes in connecting people to the resources they need to make informed health decisions. Her Players 2 & 3 are husband Jahbari, and their long-awaited son, Judah.
Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.