Jaime King's Infertility Message
Actress Jaime King laid it all out on the line.
Eight years of infertility.
Twenty-six IUI’s? That might actually be a record. And it’s totally not the point at all.
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I had no idea who Jaime King was until this news broke.
Infertility Struggles and Privacy
And it broke really big. It’s huge when a celebrity comes out in such a public way about their infertility struggles. Many celebrities chose privacy and even secrecy when it comes to infertility. Some even lie.
And before we jump onto some holier than thou platform, a lot of us lie when it comes to infertility. We say we are fine when we are not. We say we aren’t interested yet in having children when we are. We say that we’ll show up for events, like baby showers, when we have absolutely no intention of doing so. We lie to protect ourselves. Like a lot of celebrities lie to protect their privacy and that of their children. We don’t absolutely know when a celebrity is lying but it is pretty suspect when a woman of 49 gets pregnant and says that she was able to do so with her own eggs.
Still, why is it any of our business?
Jaime King spelled it out pretty good. Maybe it is none of our business, but she chose to share because she didn’t want any of us to feel alone. Or think that we were the only ones going through fertility treatment and the disappointments, pain and damage that we go through sometimes.
She chose to tell the truth, in black and white and in living color. And very out loud.
Money, youth, beauty, and celebrity did not protect her against the experiences of infertility. She may not have the worst, most painful story out there, but really, it’s pretty bad. A lot of pain. A lot of money. A lot of disappointment.
And not an easy birth. Not an easy adjustment to motherhood.
She laid it all out for us.
I take it for the gift that it was meant to be; for us not to feel alone.
We are not alone.
And although most of us don’t have the resources that she has, neither do we have to have our fertility treatment in the public eye and decide about lying. She could have kept this secret. We wouldn’t have known about what she went through unless she chose to share it.
Trying to Conceive and Knowing We Are Not Alone
It is a gift to know that we are not alone. We are not alone in the struggle of trying to conceive and carry a child. We are not alone in continuing the struggle despite tragic disappointments.
We are not alone.
Is this a matter of misery loving company?
Or is this a matter of knowing that we are all part of the human race?
Or is this simply a reminder that infertility is a very common group of diseases that prevent us from having our children when we are ready?
Maybe it’s a comfort to you that others have experienced infertility and have had this difficulty. Maybe it’s not.
Me, I’m grateful that Jaime King chose to share her story. I’m impressed with her honesty. I’m proud to have her on our team, so to speak.
Thanks Jaime King for the choices you made and for letting us know. Congratulations on your child and family. We wish you well.
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