Infertility and Being Informed
Infertility was the first health problem that I experienced that made me realize that I needed to be an informed patient. An informed consumer. After all, I was, in fact, needing and purchasing a service.
This blog isn’t about picking a board certified reproductive endocrinologist. I’ve written on that subject and I’m sure I will again. This blog also isn’t about picking a fertility program based on SART or CDC outcome numbers.
This blog is about being an informed consumer about the actual process that you may need. If you are reading this blog then you may be considering any number of things, such as:
- Whether you are in need of help conceiving a baby
- Whether you need help carrying a pregnancy so that you have a baby in your arms
- What type of medical treatment you need if you have decided that you need help
- Are you ready to take the next step and get the treatment that is being suggested
- Is it time for a second opinion
- Have you appropriately processed what you need to so that you can move onto the next stage of trying to conceive
- How to appropriately process so that you can move onto the next stage
- Have you spent the amount of time that you are comfortable with in the treatment protocol that you have been using
- What is the next step? (Fertility medication, timed intercourse, intrauterine insemination, in vitro fertilization, donor egg or sperm.)
- Is there someone experienced that you are working with to help you make these decisions?
Notice a few things. One, the only question mark is on number ten. Because that’s the question for the other nine as well.
Are you working with an experienced professional who understands from years of experience how to process all these questions?
I’m asking because it’s not necessary to recreate the wheel. It’s not necessary to manage the convoluted maze of questions that come up as you go through fertility treatment or as you consider entering treatment alone.
How Fertility Counseling Helps
Fertility counseling or therapy is not just talking about your feelings. I had the honor of spending time with Lisa Schuman yesterday. Lisa is our new counselor/therapist at RMACT. She joins Melissa Kelleher, LCSW as an important and viable resource to find your way through the questions to answers that fit best for you.
Both Lisa and Melissa are not here to give you cookie cutter answers because of their experience in helping and supporting other fertility patients. It’s a matter of their using their experience and understanding of what works with your individual personality and your specific concerns and questions.
My take away message from spending time with Lisa Schuman, LCSW yesterday reminded me that I get to learn new things every day. Of course therapy and counseling is helpful if you are experiencing feelings that are a struggle to manage and live with.
Therapy and counseling are equally as important to be able to move ahead, secure in the knowledge that you have looked thoroughly at the different aspects of the choices that you had and that you have made a decision that you are comfortable with.
We all want that for you.
Fertility Treatment Decisions Don't Have to Be Made Alone
If you have a major decision in regards to fertility treatment, don’t think that you have to figure it out on your own. Lisa and Melissa are here to help you. And they are the right people for the job. Compassionate, bright and very knowledgeable.
Lisa is running a drop-in support group every Monday from 8:00-9:00 am, in the Learning Center at the RMACT Norwalk offices. She will be adding a donor recipient group once a month, starting in August. I’ll make sure you know when, promise.
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