Infertility Support - A Mid-Week Pick Up

infertility support   kitten and dog picHere’s a mid-week infertility pick up.

 

My word for today, as it pertains to the struggles and joys of being in fertility treatment, is almost.

 

Almost.

 

Almost can walk us back from the edge.

 

We are all human beings. Every person you meet today is a human being with strengths and weaknesses. Every human being that you meet today makes mistakes, does great things, wakes up, goes to sleep and does a tremendous amount in between.

 

When you get ready to be dismissive of someone else’s mistakes or are tempted to see them as “other,” resist the urge. They are human beings. They make mistakes. They are doing the best that they can, just as you are. Just as I am. Just as we all are.

 

Maybe they are not as nice as you would like them to be. Maybe they don’t explain things as carefully as you think they should.

 

Ask yourself a few questions:

 

  1. How do I behave when I’ve gotten behind and I’m rushing to catch up?
  2. What do I leave out I feel pressured to move onto the next thing?
  3. What must it seem like to interact with me when I’ve woken up on the wrong side of the bed and nothing feels like it’s going right?

 

We don’t know what’s going on with another living being, or more specifically another human being. People I’ve been in relationship with for years, who are perpetually unpleasant, I have found out to have serious, persistent sadnesses and troubles in their lives. The worst I can do? I can add to them by being nasty or unpleasant back. The best I can do? Smile and wish them well.

Infertility Feelings and Seeing Others

Infertility sometimes feels like it wraps us up in a dark cloud where seeing another person and their pain is almost impossible.

 

Key word is almost.

 

I understand pain. I don’t understand it as well as some. I understand it better than others. Another key question is, “do I need to understand the source and details of someone else’s pain to offer sympathy, to feel empathy?” If I am in so much pain myself that I cannot see the other person as a real, live, living, breathing person with hopes and needs just like me, than it is almost impossible.

 

Key word is almost.

 

Almost is that pause that we can take, that is offered between inhale and exhale. Almost is that moment between a thought and rushing to say that thought.

 

Almost is reflective.

 

We can think. We can decide.

 

We are in pain or we are in joy. Either way, what we say out loud to another human being is our choice and ours entirely.

 

Almost is not hurtful. It does not inflict pain.

 

Almost is what you choose not to say.

 

Almost is what protects another human or living being from harsh words that you may very well regret. Almost is also what protects us from that regret.

 

Use your almosts today to the fullest extent. Indulge in them.

 

I know I will. 

 

 

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Topics: Infertility Forgiveness, Feelings, Support

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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