About Dealing with Infertility - Have a Crazy Infertile Friend?
What is your friend’s most basic, most primal fear? Why is she such a nutcase while dealing with infertility? Why does she avoid you and many of her other friends who have babies and children? Why does she withdraw and refuse invitations? Why does she seem like a different person than the friend who’s been beloved to you?
Do you have children? Yes? Ok, well, then imagine that you don’t have them. Imagine that all the moments in your day, yes even the aggravating and exhausting ones, don’t exist. Imagine that not only don’t you have your baby or babies, but imagine that you realize that you might never have them. Imagine that the moments that make your heart soften and melt don’t occur.
Wipe out all the memories. No first smiles, no first steps, no first teeth. No messy handprinted cards for mother’s or father’s day. No seeing the love on your partner’s face or your mothers or fathers when holding them. Erase all the photos and images that most likely decorate your home and office.
Picture how the last years would have felt without your children. What might you have been doing instead? Maybe exactly what your friend is doing right now? Throwing your heart, soul, money, time, energy into bringing these babies to your family?
Imagine how quiet your life would be without your children.
How do you describe your children? As the most important beings in your lives?
And still, you can’t understand how your friend could be feeling?
Are you sure you can’t?
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