Support for Infertility and Fertility Treatment - Necessary?
Find the words that you need to say.
“No, thank you.”
Those are two great answers to a question.
If someone asks to help, do you consider your answer carefully?
Infertility and fertility treatment will add a lot to your plate. Not can. Will. Even if you never set foot in a fertility specialist's office, you are thinking about getting pregnant or why you’re not getting pregnant or when you will get pregnant or if you will ever get pregnant or how it will be when you are pregnant.
This is distracting and it takes away from other things that you can be thinking about; going to see a doctor who specializes in helping you conceive can often give you less to do, not more.
Finding Infertility Support
Accepting help while you’re experiencing infertility can mean the difference between feeling like you’re part of a team or feeling isolated and lonely.
We have friends and a support system, I hope. If that is not true for you, you may want to think about bolstering up the support system that you do have, make it stronger. How? Call your friends. See them. Deepen relationships. This will be important whether becoming pregnant is easy or difficult. We need community and if you are not feeling like you have that, there are concrete ways and places you can reach out. We can help you find them.
We all need help. Maybe not all of the time, but at some times. A student of mine was trying Arda Chandrasana (half moon pose) and was struggling. Going over and providing a little extra balance was all she needed. She turned her heart and face towards the sky and found contentment instead of struggle in the pose.
All with a little help from a friend.
So raise your hand if you’re good at asking for help. Anyone? Anyone at all?
I’ll be honest. I didn’t raise my hand. I’m not good at it. I don’t like to ask. I don’t like to accept help and I constantly worry about when I’ll be able to offer something back. I keep track when I don’t have to and I drive my friends a little crazy, to be perfectly honest.
Interestingly enough, I like to offer help. I like to give help. I like to support other people in ways that make sense and are necessary for them.
Consider when you ask for help that you are offering that to someone else. That when you ask for help, someone else gets to feel better about themselves. Not in a prideful way. in a way that reminds us that we are bigger than just ourselves and that we live in community. Offering someone else help reminds us of our connection to one another.
Options, Resources and Support Systems
Infertility is too hard to do by ourselves. It really is.
If your regular support system is not comfortable for you to use right now because of privacy or lack of understanding on their part, try our integrated fertility resources or join us here.
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We are here for you. I am here for you.
What’s your question today?
Or as a dear friend often asks, “how may I help you today?”
It would be my pleasure.