One last word or two, on National Infertility Awareness Week. Here’s a quiz for all you fertile people out there!
I like to call it, “Did you know?”
Let’s just jump right in.
Fertility Quiz for Those Who Are Fertile
- Did you know that 1 in 8 couples are affected by infertility or trouble sustaining a pregnancy?
- That men and women are equally affected by infertility?
- Infertility can feel as emotionally challenging as cancer or other life threatening illnesses and diseases?
- Chances are someone in your book group, workplace, place of worship or other group has been having problems but has not felt comfortable asking or receiving support?
- Infertility can make maintaining friendships with others who are having babies nearly impossible and at the least very painful?
- Infertility can become all that your friend can focus on? Given that fertility treatments can be time intensive; including lots of doctors appointments, requiring medications taken at specific times (including injections on a daily basis), and limits daily activities, your friend may have a very different schedule and availability than he or she used to.
- Your friend is afraid, at her/his very core, that they will not be able to have children, even if the statistics are in their favor?
- This might be the first very large life obstacle that many people face?
- That relaxing, taking a vacation, adopting will not help? But suggesting those things can make your friend feel more isolated and even irate.
- Your friend may be unable to discuss his/her treatment with you because of their own feelings of inadequacy and shame?
If you did not know those things, could you please share this with another fertile friend? Chances are they didn’t know it either.
Bottom line, I believe that people want to be kind. Especially to their friends. I would like to believe that if you knew the things above, that you would be more sensitive and kind to your friend who does not have children yet. It’s very possible that if your friend is married for a significant amount of time and does not have a baby yet that there’s a problem, even if they aren’t telling you.
So please pass this on. It’s hard to unknow something, so please keep what I’ve shared with you uppermost in your mind when you are in a relationship with someone who may be having struggles with infertility.
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