Pregnancy Wait and See Days

floating through the pregnancy waitThe dreaded two week wait is no longer that.

 

With in vitro fertilization (IVF), it used to be that there were two weeks after the transfer of embryos to just wait and see about the outcome. In other words, two weeks to hope, notice every single little twinge in your body, receive more baby announcements and generally try to carry on with your life before a reliable pregnancy test could be done to say yes or no to a successful fertility treatment cycle.

 

These days, with embryos being transferred more commonly at day 5, there are really only ten days that you have to wait to find out about pregnancy.

 

To be honest, I’m not even quite sure of the math here. I know that embryos are being transferred to the woman’s uterus later, with the embryo older. I know because of this that the wait for the pregnancy test is a shorter time. If you need a more clinical or scientific description, please let me know and I’ll ask one of our fertility doctors. It’s not exactly the point of this blog; still I don’t want to confuse anyone out there.

Counting Down While Trying to Conceive

Whether it's two weeks or ten days, it can feel like forever when you are waiting and hoping, trying to conceive. It feels like time has slowed way down. While everything else is at normal speed, minutes can pass and feel like hours. You look at the clock and it can’t possibly be that time. It must be later. Yet it’s not.

 

Productivity can be way off during this waiting time. Your focus can be off or it can be micro-directed. It’s pretty typical to feel distracted and off-kilter. It may be the first time you’re wondering what is happening in your body.

 

You know that embryos that were dividing and “growing” were transferred back into your body. Are they still? It’s hard not to wonder. Perhaps you say a prayer or blessing for the embryo to continue to divide. Perhaps you just try to ignore the whole thing.

 

There is no one right way to get through this time period. I’ve written blogs before on suggestions on what to do while waiting that include funny movies, bad books, etc. Here you can find my pep talk on waiting, waiting, and more waiting! and many more here on the two week wait as well as a bounty of weekend ideas.

 

Some of us dive into it, some of us swim as fast as we can in the other direction.

 

A New Vision for the Two Week Wait

 

Here’s a new vision for the two week wait, inspired by a loved one and a blog he wrote from India on Buddhism and Facebook. Quite the combination, hmm?

 

My vision. Floating on my back in water that is neither too cold nor too warm. Comfortable and satisfying. Effortlessly floating with my arms soft by my sides, palms up. Eyes closed, looking softly inward, not for answers, just content to breathe into my own inner landscape. A soft sun on my face, the light coming in through my closed eyelids, brightening my every cell. The quiet movement of the water in harmony with my breath. I float, no more striving or doing or resisting.

 

I float.

 

I don’t wait. Or distract. I simply float.

 

If that’s not possible for you as you wait, then please picture me floating. Perhaps reach out a tentative hand. I will hold on. I am waiting with you.

 

 

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Topics: Conception, waiting

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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