Single Women Pursuing Parenthood
Over the past ten years I have had the pleasure of working with increasing numbers of single women who are choosing to “take matters into their own hands”; not willing to wait for Mr. Right to come along, they are deciding to use donor sperm to create their families. Most of them have given this decision a great deal of thought and have discussed their plans with family and friends who are quite supportive. Nonetheless, most of these women also admit that the process is rather daunting. Choosing a fertility clinic, a sperm bank, a donor, coming up with the money, and understanding the psychosocial issues related to sperm donation for both the moms and the kids, planning for a pregnancy and a new baby… it’s a lot. And, to make it even more challenging, most women do not know anybody else who has already traveled this path, so they are without a guide (or even a companion) on the trail.
Lisa Tuttle, PhD, Clinical Psychologist
To Support and Educate Single Mothers-To-Be
In an effort to support and educate these Single-Mothers-To-Be, I will be hosting a discussion group "Single Women Pursuing Parenthood" on March 24th at RMA of CT in Norwalk. Here, I have listed five good reasons you should join us:
1.) You want to make an informed decision about which sperm bank you decide to work with. Not all sperm banks are equal. Get educated about the relevant differences so that you can choose a sperm bank that is right for you and the family you are creating.
2.) You want to make an informed decision about which sperm donor you select. Develop a clear sense of which donor attributes are really important for you and your child, and which aren’t.
3.) You eagerly anticipate the joy that your child will bring to your life, but you also want to be prepared for the challenges, questions and curiosity that your child is likely to have. There is a great deal of information available to help you understand what your child is likely to experience as a donor-conceived person. The more educated you are about these matters, the more prepared you will be to help your child in the years to come.
4.) You want to meet other women who are also pursuing single motherhood. It’s so helpful to be able to talk with other women who understand the decisions, the medical treatments, and the wide range of emotions you are likely to face as you pursue single motherhood.
5.) You have questions or concerns about the path to single motherhood, and you are looking for answers and support. It’s very normal to feel nervous, uncertain, or overwhelmed as you embark on the path to become a single mother. Give yourself this opportunity to gain clarity and confidence in any and all aspects of the process (medical, financial, emotional, and social).
Becoming A Single Mom - Join the Discussion
I hope to see you on March 24th to help you and the other members of this group explore the realities of becoming a single mom.
Details and RSVP information:
When: Monday, March 24th, 6:00-7:30 p.m.
Where: RMA of CT at 10 Glover Avenue, Norwalk, CT
This is a chance to meet other women to talk about the decisions, anxieties, excitement and opportunities that you will face along the way to becoming a mother. Possible topics may include:
• Choosing a sperm donor
• Talking to friends, family, and co-workers
• Creating a strong support system
• What do I tell my child?
This group is free of charge and open to the public. It will be facilitated by Lisa Tuttle, PhD, clinical psychologist. If you have any questions, please call Lisa at (203) 852-9099.
Light refreshments will be served.
RSVP to Cori at (203) 750-7492.