The Two Week Wait: Is It the Worst Part of Fertility Treatment?
Two week wait. Possibly the worst part of fertility treatment. Where you get to sit and wonder, “did it or didn’t it work?”
We invent symptoms or we lament lack of symptoms. We compare how we feel with this fertility treatment cycle with the last one. It’s too similar or too different.
We realize that two weeks can feel like two years when the thought of a possible pregnancy is never far from your mind. We’re almost as scared of the time passing as we are of the time not passing. If we don’t know, isn’t that better than knowing it’s a no? You know what I mean.
We tie ourselves up in knots or distract ourselves silly. We judge every moment and worry that our stress, concern and downright obsession will prevent the pregnancy from happening or staying healthy.
We monitor each bite of food and drink. We think about how much we are resting and exercising. We notice what we say and what we think; sure even that our thoughts will skew our chances of a successful pregnancy.
We exhaust ourselves with the effort of not thinking about it or find ourselves considering yes or no over and over again.
It’s hard to be us for these two weeks.
Really, it is.
In terms of advice and how to get through it?
I tried everything. Distraction. Diving in and obsessing. And everything in between.
My own personal favorite might be talking, talking and more talking.
Enlisting Fertility Friends for Peer Support
Since my husband had a much lower saturation point than I did, I enlisted my friends. Not my regular friends either but my fertility friends. My friends that were experiencing very similar things, knew what the up’s and down’s were about and knew what to say and just as importantly, what not to say.
They were the ones that I called twelve times a day. They were the ones that I shared numbers and levels and all other details of treatment that no one else understood or were interested in.
Yeah, my fertility buddies were the folks who got me through infertility and fertility treatment and the two week wait.
Who knew what it felt like to be so up and down. Convinced that it worked. Just as convinced that it didn’t work. All in the space of five seconds.
Ladies Night In - A Free Resource, Open to the Public
For you to know, if you would like some support, tonight in Danbury, CT is Ladies Night In. Peer support group, free of charge, open to the general public, and includes a delicious dinner and a chance to meet and talk with other women who get it. Just simply get it.
Location: Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT) offices at 67 Sand Pit Road, from 6-7:15 p.m., Tuesday, November 5, 2013. A good chance to let it all out.
We, Carrie Van Steen and I, look forward to seeing you there.
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