Talking About Infertility
To add insult to injury, when talking about infertility the language can be touchy. Some of it is just plain hurtful. And some of it simply and completely, sucks.
Some infertility words I hate:
- advanced maternal age
- poor response
- over reacting
- more testing
- inappropriate hormone levels
- birth control
- no insurance
- credit card limits
- unexpected pregnancies of friends/family members
- facebook sonograms
- not possible
- no further treatment options
- transfer cancelled
- retrieval cancelled
- hyper stimulation
- male factor
There are so many more. These are just a few personal non-favorites.
And to go a step further, here are the worst of them:
Why are those the worst? Because they accurately expressed my feelings as well as my medical condition.
Coping With Infertility With An Arrow Through the Heart
While coping with infertility, I felt incompetent, hostile, like a failure and that fertility treatment was impossible.
It added insult to injury that those words were used to express medical conditions/situations.
Abortion for a miscarriage was an arrow through the heart. Pierced truly and completely effectively.
Sticks and stones and all that?
And the words above hurt me every time that I heard them.
Would you share with me which ones hurt you? Or name the ones that I didn't list?
I would love to hear from you!