The Royal Baby and Louise Brown: British Birthdays

Royal Baby and Louise BrownThere was more than one birthday celebrated from the UK this week. William and Kate's baby was one. 

 

In infertility worlds, royalty is celebrated in the person of Louise Brown.

 

The first IVF baby. 

 

Louise turned 35 yesterday.

 

Photo: Flickr Creative Commons, wisegie

 

She was born to parents who could not have conceived without IVF as her mother had blocked fallopian tubes. 

 

Louise was the first of over five million babies born since, using the scientific advances of IVF. 

 

Five million plus IVF babies.

 

Amazing that it still isn't considered a medical condition or necessity in many places in the world. In thirty-five years, it is still mainly not covered by medical insurance in the U.S. Many countries elsewhere have mandatory IVF coverage, often with strict limitations, especially around maternal age. 

 

I wouldn't wish infertility and the necessity of fertility treatment and IVF on anyone. There have been moments in time where that was not true. In my more desperate and difficult moments there were people I wished would experience infertility; if only to become more compassionate to those struggling with it (me) or become more grateful for their own pregnancies and children.

 

Can you imagine though, the impact a spokesperson from a member of the royal family would have been like? Even the symmetry appeals to me, that IVF began in England and thirty-five years later, it found it's voice there again. 

 

Just imagine if William and Kate had struggled and been public with it. Would they have dared? Would they have been willing to bear the burden of seeking fertility treatment in the public eye and the unrelenting speculation of the press and those eager to know of their plight? Would they have shared what it was like to have to endure the injections, the testing, the procedures and the wait? Would they have even really understood as they would not have had the concerns so many of us do have about how to pay for it and whether they would have been able to afford another cycle if this one didn't work? 

 

In speaking to men and women (mainly women) for over twenty-five of the last thirty-five years that IVF has existed, the concerns haven't changed in significant ways. There is the overwhelming responsibility of how to pay for it, first, then a landslide of other concerns and emotions that are remarkably similar to what they've been for the last quarter of a century.

About IVF (in vitro fertilization): Concerns and Emotions

Just the briefest of overviews about IVF (in vitro fertilization):

 

  • Hope that IVF will work
  • Fear that it will not
  • If not insured, figuring out how to find the money to afford treatment
  • Disappointment if eggs weren't retrieved (or were less than expected)
  • Emotional turmoil hearing about whether embryos developed and were continuing to grow normally
  • Figuring out how many embryos to transfer
  • Deciding who to share news of fertility problems with
  • The emotional pressure of waiting the two weeks or so to find out the results after a transfer
  • Having a plan in case the fertility cycle didn't work

 

That's a short list. A very, very short list.

 

And interestingly enough?

 

Those are highs and lows that anyone going through infertility would go through. 

 

Whether you live in Connecticut and are covered by the CT state infertility insurance mandate or in Idaho, where there is not one. Whether you live in Sweden and there is little or no financial cost involved or whether you live in Italy where treatment is much more restrictive.

 

Or even if you are the Prince and Princess of England. (I know those are not their official titles, still, it's kind of fun just to have a Prince and Princess in my story this morning.)

 

Aside from the financial piece, which is huge, so much of what we all experience with infertility and fertility treatment is very similar.

 

If William and Kate had gone through fertility treatment, I would have something in common with royalty. I kind of like the idea of that.

 

I'm a hopeful person. 

 

Here's my hope.

 

That William and Kate are so in love with this baby that they are inspired to talk about infertility even though they didn't have to experience it first hand. That they share their hearts with the millions that need IVF and medical insurance to afford it. That they chose infertility because their gratitude and joy is so large that sharing it with those struggling becomes the best possible answer.

 

I'm a hopeful person.

 

In Britain, IVF began. 

 

Happy birthday to Louise Brown and her entire family.

 

And happy birthday to the new royal baby as well. 

 

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Topics: Fertility Treatment

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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