Need A Vacation? How About An Infertility Break
Taking time off is a way of taking care of yourself.
It’s a way of staying a whole person.
Infertility and fertility treatment can sometimes make you feel like your world has gotten smaller and smaller. Our attention gets so focused on this aspect of our lives that we forget that we have other interests.
And this is the time of the year that many of us love to be outside. It’s beautiful, it’s green, it’s warm.
How about a vacation?
I know that my husband and I put off vacation after vacation; we were either in a fertility treatment cycle or we were waiting for results to one or we were hoping to be unable to travel because I was pregnant.
One year, in the midst of all of this, he took my hand, looked me in the eyes and said, “Honey, let’s go ski in Utah.”
Best fertility decision we ever made. We skied. We soaked in the hot tub. We swam in the outdoor pool. We had a couples massage. We had fun. We made love.
It was a great vacation. We reconnected, as we have done many times in our almost twenty-nine-year-old marriage.
We discovered we did not miss fertility treatment. Didn’t miss the shots, the ultrasounds, the procedures. None of it.
It was the breath of fresh air that we both needed. A focus that allowed us to look into each other’s eyes and remember that we liked each other. Even loved each other.
I recommend it. A few days at a bed & breakfast in the mountains, the ocean, somewhere. Go into a city and see dance, shows, comedy.
A vacation won’t get you pregnant. I’d heard that one. “Take a vacation, you’ll get pregnant.” That didn’t work for me.
More Than An Infertility Diagnosis
A vacation did help me reconnect to my husband, reminding me that we had more than just an infertility diagnosis. We had and have a marriage.
Perhaps more importantly, though, it reminded me that I had me. A real person. Full and three dimensional. Not just a walking infertility problem.
That was a good enough reason for the vacation, right there. To see my reflection in the mirror when I looked and remember who I truly was.
A beautiful woman. A full and complete woman. A strong and capable woman. A healthy and vibrant woman.
Cheapest vacation I ever took, given what it gave back.