Negotiating the Two Week Wait
There is a pause when we are in the midst of fertility treatment.
It is not so affectionately referred to as the two week wait.
It’s when there is very little to do but just that.
You’ve done the stimulations, you’ve done the blood draws and ultrasounds and procedures. You’ve taken the medications and seen your hopes go up and down and now there’s nothing to do but wait.
We’re waiting to see if it worked. And by worked, I mean, are we pregnant?
That’s all we really want to know.
Has it happened?
A lot of us start to feel mysterious symptoms that tell us, absolutely, that we are or we are not pregnant. We may feel nauseous or not nauseous. We may feel fatigued and so we are pregnant. We may feel full of energy and so we are pregnant. We may feel precisely the same and so we are not pregnant.
This is pure and simple, crazy making.
The Most Difficult Time of Fertility Treatment?
In fact, most of us find this time period more difficult than any other during the course of fertility treatment. Because there’s nothing tangible to do. It’s where we can relate more easily to the men in our lives than at any other time of fertility treatment.
We hear over and over again how often men want to fix something; do something; anything at all. And here we are, feeling precisely the same way. Can’t I do something, anything?
Sometimes we just feel like if we do everything, every step, exactly right, it will work. Eat exactly the right foods, sleep enough, avoid anything with alcohol or caffeine or sugar or bad fats or bad carbs, and the list goes on and on and on.
Maybe if we don’t feel stress at work. Or we don’t raise our heartbeat over what it takes to walk ten feet. Maybe if we don’t argue with our mothers, friends, partners. Maybe if we finally take that meditation class.
Isn’t there anything at all we can do besides go crazy waiting?
Yes. We can distract ourselves. Read a good or bad book. Watch movies. Talk to friends and family members. Garden. Walk. Listen or play music. Play games. Knit. Draw. Paint. Write. Play darts. Wash your dog. Go to a museum, comedy show, play, casino, sports event, concert.
Yes. We can also breathe into quieter places and find strength from within. And I guarantee it’s there. I don’t guarantee much in life, that’s not my place or my job. But I guarantee this. If you are going through infertility and fertility treatment, you have an inner strength that you can engage and find comfort from. I absolutely guarantee it. One hundred per cent. It’s there. If you’re not sure how to find it or what to do with it if you should stumble across it, call me, we’ll figure it out together.
It’s not only possible to make it through the two week wait, it’s possible even to find moments of peace during it.
Let me know if you need help, that’s what I’m here for.
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