Finding the Fertile Self
I am a lucky woman.
I know that.
Last night, I taught a yoga class and offered the intention that the time spent in practice could be treated as a break from the rest of the day. A vacation. Time just for yourself.
I just went on vacation.
I pretty much did what I wanted and didn’t do what I didn’t want.
Two of the gorgeous women in class last night practiced most of the time with their eyes closed. And big smiles on their face. You could see their inner light, shining through. Their sunshine, generated by their own generous hearts.
They took to heart the idea of enjoying their practice. Of making that the point of their practice. And their breath expanded their hearts, which expanded their practice even more.
That’s yoga. Not a bunch of physical poses. Coming into our own hearts and breath. Finding our inner smile and then shining it out.
A Screenching Halt: Infertility
Infertility can put a screeching halt to expanding. It can cause you to contract and constrict and isolate. It can cause you to become smaller and smaller and smaller until you basically can’t even recognize yourself.
How many times have we heard from partners that they don’t recognize themselves anymore, much less each other? That the person they are, with their beloved, no longer resembles who they fell in love with, who they created a life with, and in the same breath, neither do they recognize themselves.
Most of the changes we see in ourselves and others are “negative”. We are more angry, more sad, more anxious, more frustrated, more jealous. More, more, more.
We are more emotional. More hopeful. More vulnerable.
And here we come to the crux of it.
Emerging from Infertility and Vulnerability
We are more vulnerable.
With infertility, there is not a lot to hide behind. We can’t sort of create a family. There is either a child added to our family or there is not. And we are vulnerable in our desire. We are hurt, easily, by insensitive, even if well meant, comments.
And so we become smaller.
Know a great way to stop the incredible shrinking process?
Acknowledging the pain.
And finding ourselves and each other, underneath it all.
Assume you will come out of this, whole and complete.
While you may have seismic shifts, you will emerge whole and complete.
We are here to help you do that. Doing it alone is completely and utterly unnecessary.
Let us know what we can do to help.
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