Infertility Decisions: A Story of Nine IUI's

IUI Treatment and Infertility Support

"Stuck in irons, straight into the wind."

 

I like that phrase. 

 

Particularly when it comes to fertility treatment.

 

Sometimes we just get to a place where making a decision feels impossible. 

 

For example, I did 9 IUI's (intrauterine insemination, sometimes referred to as artificial insemination).

 

If you're an experienced fertility treatment patient, if you've looked infertility right in the eye, you know that sounds excessive.

 

It is excessive. Not just because it was 9 IUI's. But also because my fertility doctors and medical team were suggesting other options. I wasn't willing to hear them. 

 

I was stuck.

 

I was young. I was kind of dumb. I'm not connecting those two things and insinuating that you are dumb, if you are young. I am not insinuating that young is dumb. I'm strictly talking about myself here!

 

I was young. I was kind of dumb. And I was scared.

 

Not a winning combination. A truthful analysis however. Definitely a combination that would create the feeling of being stuck. 

 

I like the phrase, "stuck in irons, straight into the wind".

 

It's a sailing term. Roughly, it means that the bow (front) of your boat is headed directly into the wind, making it impossible for the sails to fill with wind. So you just sit there, with wind all around, unable to make use of it. 

Fertility Treatment Options: When to Look Around

That was me. There were lots of fertility treatment options all around, I had great doctors who tried to lead me into different treatment protocols and I sat there, stuck.

 

When in a sailboat, stuck in the wind, one needs to gently move in almost any direction to fill the sails. The rudder turns the boat one way or another, and fills the sails, if there is wind. 

 

Maybe I'm being unduly harsh about my younger self. If I add a little compassion then perhaps it's true that what I needed to do was sit there as long as I did to find the course of treatment that I was comfortable with. 

 

I don't know anymore. 

 

I do know that sitting quietly and considering has a lot of value. And that action is necessary. We all have our ways of finding balance between those two and we all come to different conclusions.

 

Sometimes it's moving ahead, despite feeling scared about our choice; trusting ourselves and our doctors that it's time.

 

Sometimes it's sitting quietly. Longer than it makes sense to other people because it makes sense to us.

 

Check in with other people that you trust and respect. Let them reflect back to you how you're feeling and what you're thinking.

 

Decide whether it's time to move around and catch the wind.

 

 

Topics: Support, Fertility Treatment

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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