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You are not alone is a phrase I have used over and over again on this blog in the last three years.

 

I listened to President Obama say that to a group of Newtown families, community and religious leaders last night

 

He was speaking in a high school auditorium about twelve minutes from my home. A national tragedy that was also a very, very local tragedy for me. 

 

I have no words. It is not possible to make sense out of something that in my deepest despair, wildest grief or most intense anger, I could not and would not ever conceive of doing. 

 

Some things are beyond understanding. 

 

I've been resisting impulses to do something. 

 

To just sit with the pain.

 

The sorrow.

 

The confusion.

 

Some words that I read from a dear friend, David Forman, yesterday:

 

Dealing with Pain

"Thinking about why I was pained yesterday by how many of us felt the need to stand on a soap box and yell about gun control . . . The inability to sit with sadness, the recourse to anger and the insistence on quick solution to make it go away-- I feel those impulses too, of course, and said something along those lines in the first hour after the news broke. But, ultimately, I feel that this desire to instantly reassert control over what we cannot understand is part of the problem. If the goal is to remake our society so that children's lives are valued, so that those suffering from mental illness get help, so that guns are removed from the central place they have in our culture, we need to keep our hearts open to the suffering of the parents. We need to let this change us."

 

Thanks David. Your words help me remember that I am not alone. You are not alone. None of us are alone. 

 

Even when we feel like we are.

 

I'm going to leave you with some more images I've collected over the years. Sometimes it just helps to look at something beautiful. 

 

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You Are Not Alone

 

 

Topics: Feelings

Lisa Rosenthal

Lisa has over thirty years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for eleven years and serves as Patient Advocate and the Strategic Content Lead.

Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.

Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.

Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.

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