You've taken the fertility medications, had the ultrasounds to see what's going on in there, done the procedures, (either IUI or IVF) and now you wait.
When do ten days or two weeks feel like a year? When there's nothing to do but wait.
And honestly, that's just the beginning of the waiting
If all goes spectacularly well, and the pregnancy test comes back positive, then you wait some more.
There's a reason a phrase "waiting for baby" came into being.
And if you've struggled to become pregnant and maybe struggled to remain pregnant- that waiting feels fraught with unease. Fear can sometimes be overwhelming and every twinge is a sign that the pregnancy is ending. Pregnancy symptoms that go away are scary, new symptoms feel threatening. No symptoms are nerve wracking.
Add all this to your hormones soaring.
Early pregnancy can be far less enjoyable than you imagined when you're waiting in fear of some pregnancy ending experience. The answer is there's no easy answer. There are distractions, there are rationalizations, there are reassurances, but there are no easy answers.
Distractions, Rationalizations, Reassurances
Distractions- read, write, socialize, be entertained at a movie or a play or a concert, talk, walk, create art, garden, watch your favorite movies or TV, craft, finish a project, start a project, clean, cook, vacation
Rationalizations- listen to your brain telling you all the reasons why you should or should not be afraid, listen to others telling you similar reasons, read and try and convince your brain that everything will either be fine or will not be, read statistics for someone in a situation similar to yours
Reassurances- reach out to your friends and ask them what they think, report every feeling that you are having to your clinical staff and have them weigh in on whether these are good signs or bad, see if your friends experienced these feelings when they were pregnant or were waiting to hear whether they were or not
Distractions, rationalizations and reassurances are all brain based. Given that you are experiencing fear and anxiety, you may consider also trying an approach that includes soothing your heart.
Positive Affirmations While You Wait
Positive affirmations can take the fear and anxiety down a few levels. Likely they won't help the first few times that you try them, maybe not even the first 30 times you try them.
Here are a few:
- My heart, my mind and my body are healthy
- I am strong, capable, healthy and content in this moment
- I am loving and I am loved
Aside from heavy drinking and drugging, whatever it takes to get you through the waiting period will work well enough.
And please remember, we are here for you.