Hints for surviving the holidays while struggling with infertility:
- Pick the partys and celebrations to attend that truly bring you joy, not the ones that you feel you "should" attend
- Create new rituals for yourself if you find that some of the ones that have brought joy and comfort in the past no longer do (check in later this week for some ideas on new ones!)
- Consider a vacation or a staycation- if going away is impossible or not appealing, then create some vacation time at home. Pick your favorite things to do (suggestions later this week!) and do them!
- Prepare a script (or two) of things that you'd like to say when you get asked the inevetable questions about babies and family. They can be quite simple or more complicated depending on who is asking the question. On Thursday, I will create a list of answers to these questions. Those of you out there who have ones that you are comfortable with, please make a comment below so that I have them to add to the list
- Ask for support. Many of you now know someone else who is in fertility treatment, through Ladies Night In. Ladies Night In is meeting in Danbury tomorrow night- Wednesday, December 7 and in Norwalk- Wednesday, December 14. We'll exchange phone numbers. Use them. Call each other. Call us. (Friday, December 16th, after Fertile Yoga, we're doing a Ladies Night OUT- details to follow)
- Another variation on asking for support. For those of you who have shared what you are going through with friends or family, let them know that this is a difficult time for you. It's a great idea to ask them to watch your back. They can keep an eye out if you are stuck in a conversation with a known busy-body and come rescue you if needed.
- Keep a gratitude journal. Write three things a day that you feel grateful for. It could be as simple as the car started today. It could be that you feel grateful for your relationship with your partner. If it's helpful, write in your journal thirty times a day. Sometimes it is, incredibly helpful.
Find something fun to do. Or something silly. Something that is just "not you". A comedy club, sky diving, zumba class, bowling, laughing yoga. Something that may open up new interests or just provides a lively distraction.
Stay tuned to this blog for all the hints and suggestions that I promised you.
Anyone out there with fabulous answers to those questions we all dread hearing, please send them into the comment section of today's blog! I need your help....