Hints for surviving the holidays while struggling with infertility:
Pick the partys and celebrations to attend that truly bring you joy, not the ones that you feel you "should" attend
Create new rituals for yourself if you find that some of the ones that have brought joy and comfort in the past no longer do (check in later this week for some ideas on new ones!)
Consider a vacation or a staycation- if going away is impossible or not appealing, then create some vacation time at home. Pick your favorite things to do (suggestions later this week!) and do them!
Prepare a script (or two) of things that you'd like to say when you get asked the inevetable questions about babies and family. They can be quite simple or more complicated depending on who is asking the question. On Thursday, I will create a list of answers to these questions. Those of you out there who have ones that you are comfortable with, please make a comment below so that I have them to add to the list
Ask for support. Many of you now know someone else who is in fertility treatment, through Ladies Night In. Ladies Night Inis meeting in Danbury tomorrow night- Wednesday, December 7 and in Norwalk- Wednesday, December 14. We'll exchange phone numbers. Use them. Call each other. Call us. (Friday, December 16th, after Fertile Yoga, we're doing a Ladies Night OUT- details to follow)
Another variation on asking for support. For those of you who have shared what you are going through with friends or family, let them know that this is a difficult time for you. It's a great idea to ask them to watch your back. They can keep an eye out if you are stuck in a conversation with a known busy-body and come rescue you if needed.
Keep a gratitude journal. Write three things a day that you feel grateful for. It could be as simple as the car started today. It could be that you feel grateful for your relationship with your partner. If it's helpful, write in your journal thirty times a day. Sometimes it is, incredibly helpful.
Find something fun to do. Or something silly. Something that is just "not you". A comedy club, sky diving, zumba class, bowling, laughing yoga. Something that may open up new interests or just provides a lively distraction.
Stay tuned to this blog for all the hints and suggestions that I promised you.
Anyone out there with fabulous answers to those questions we all dread hearing, please send them into the comment section of today's blog! I need your help....
Lisa has over twenty-five years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for seven years and is currently Patient Advocate and Blog Editor-in-Chief.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.