The Two Week Infertility Wait and a Little Help From Our Friends

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When I shared the PathforFertility blog on facebook last week, the two week wait elicited the following thread and responses from two of my facebook friends:

Lisa Rosenthal: My Fertile Yoga students just last Saturday were talking about the two week wait. So much worse than the injections, mixing the meds, the scans, the retrievals, the transfers. Who wants to sit and wait??!!!! How is it possible to enjoy the downtime? Any thoughts you want to share with my students and blog readers????

Of course! For me, it was all about preparation. Before the two week wait, I set up a series of projects and tasks that could occupy my time and mind (coloring books, movies I wanted to see, etc.), I scheduled phone calls with several friends I wanted to catch up with and I had several sessions with my therapist. I also think you have to commit to maintaining the attitude of not getting too hopeful and not getting too negative. For me, certain key phrases and reminders helped with that... like “I can’t control the outcome so why stress over it.”
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Hi, I think a couple should fill that time up with activities they did when they were dating before the wedding, setting up house, settling into marriage and finally TTC. I strongly believe that couples should rejoice and celebrate the love that brought them to this point in their lives! Laugh, play tootsies in bed, go out, and be spontaneous. If success is achieved you will be so glad and if that positive outcome is not delivered to you then the couple would have just renewed the love they share and the places, activities, and people who brought them together. I wish well for all those going through this fertility journey and hope your lives will be changed forever. Best Wishes, Deana

Deana Hall DeGroot

President of Loving Donation 

I think that's genius Deana! I think women get too focused on thinking about what they are waiting for but honestly, it's just not productive, relaxing or helpful in the least. I SERIOUSLY have to write about all this in the coming week... TwoWeekWait

I'm glad you liked my comments! I have a couple more things to share: 1) Visualize every night before the transfer and after the following: "My uterus is a warm, happy, and inviting nest for a baby to grow.” 2) TAKE each step with cautious optimism!!! Deana Hall DeGroot 

I love all of this. Would you please consider sharing this over on my blog? Or can I just quote you and attribute it to you, how? This conversation is exactly what we all need.

What suggestions would you like to add? Here are a few of mine from a few weeks ago, just in case you missed them

1. cotton sheets
2. good books
3. leisurely walks
4. fresh fruit
5. egg white omlettes
6. sappy movies
7. crossword puzzles
8. yoga classes
9. friends who didn't ask questions but listened well
10. sleeping late on the weekends
11. gardening in the shade
12. waterfalls
13. fireworks
14. clean floors
15. grilled cheese sandwiches
16. college Lacrosse games
17. well vacuumed rugs
18. hammocks
19. picking blueberries

Keep the list growing. What are your suggestions to get through the two week wait?