Infertility tends to make us go underground, makes us feel less alive, less awake, less whole. Perhaps infertility could be described as the winter season, everything going inwards, hibernating, seemingly dead. Love is always present, regardless of the season, though, and as we move forward into warmth, love has the chance to emerge more fully.
It's Spring, a time of rebirth, new growth, Passover and Easter. Ramadan, arguably the most significant observance of the Muslim year, this year, begins in August. All of these observances are based on many things, the moon phases being the most important, which they all have in common. The Jewish calendar is either 29-30 days, according to the lunar calendar, although the solar calendar dictates the amount of months in a year. Passover comes on the same day every year, the fifteenth day of Nissan.Ramadan is based strictly on when the sliver of the new moon is seen. Easter comes on the first Sunday after the full moon, following the vernal equinox.
We know that the moon has a powerful effect on the earth, just as the earth has a powerful effect on the moon. The moon stabilizes the earth and prevents dramatic movement in the poles. The moon also is mainly responsible for the tides in our ocean, as it rotates around us, taking it's time, about a month. The earth exerts gravity and keeps the moon orbiting around the earth.
And so we have a full moon tonight, whether it is raining or not, it is full. The first night of Passover seder is tonight after sundown, after the first three stars would be able to be seen. In Israel, there is one seder at the beginning of Passover, in the United States, many Jewish families create two seders to ensure that one has observed on the correct day, given the international timeline.
In my crazy family, of course it makes sense to have three Passover seders. We will celebrate tonight and tomorrow night with friends and extended family and then come together on Saturday, between Good Friday and Easter Sunday, for the "family" seder. Because, really, it is all about family. And our families have very different shapes and forms. A family can look so many different ways. In my family alone, we have families that include biological parents, step parents, single parents, non parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, childfree by choice, and more. None of the children seem particularly confused or upset by the coming together of family, some of whom they only see once or twice a year. It's apparent, that for all of my families craziness (and there is plenty), the acceptance of family, is spreading to the next generation.
It comes down to love, I think. Not the moon, not even which, if any religions you observe or have faith in. But love. And where there is love, there is family.
Lisa has over twenty-five years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for seven years and is currently Patient Advocate and Blog Editor-in-Chief.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.