What would it take for you to follow that as if it were advice offered? If you were to enjoy yourself despite your infertility struggles?
For me? It will be doing something today that is totally about me. All about giving myself the opportunity to enjoy the day. Might be sleeping in late. Might be about eating breakfast in bed. Could be taking a long, warm bath. Sappy movie on TV. (I have an endless supply of inexpensive, relaxing, fun things that I like to do. Let me know if you want my longer list.) Often it is taking a walk, with a fabulous pure bred mutt that I adore.
I know very well, as do my family and friends, that when I take care of myself, I am a better friend, daughter, spouse, even employee. Even if it's only for a short time. (Did I mention the great book that I am reading? You have to read it, you really do. "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell. A favorite inexpensive, relaxing way to spend time is to find a book that truly brings me into its center.)
A day like today, Christmas, may mean many moments of joy and laughter; I hope that is true for you. It may also mean some sad reflection. It may mean a day so full and busy that it will feel impossible to spend some time on just you.
Find 10 minutes. Find an hour. Or early morning, late afternoon. Give yourself a present that doesn't cost very much, if anything. Do something that brings you simple joy and peace.
Lisa has over twenty-five years of experience in the fertility field. After her personal infertility journey, she felt dissatisfied with the lack of comprehensive services available to support her. She was determined to help others undergoing fertility treatment. Lisa has been with RMACT for seven years and is currently Patient Advocate and Blog Editor-in-Chief.
Lisa is the teacher and founder of Fertile Yoga, a program designed to support men and women on their quest for their families through gentle movement and meditation.
Lisa’s true passion is supporting patients getting into treatment, being able to stay in treatment and staying whole and complete throughout the process. Lisa is also a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, which is helpful in her work with fertility patients.
Her experience also includes working with RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association and The American Fertility Association (now Path2Parenthood), where she was Educational Coordinator, Conference Director and Assistant Executive Director.