Fertility and Age - A Big Lie?
How ironic that the day I write a blog about fertility and age, addressing fear and the emotions around NOT being old at 20, or 30, or 40, or 50, I read in Cosmopolitan about maternal aging. Otherwise known as, “why didn’t anyone tell me that I may feel young, I may look young, I may BE young in terms of my overall lifespan, but, and wait for drum roll; my eggs are not young”.
Tanya Selvaratnam had that experience, which she speaks about in her interview in Cosmo with Liz Welch, titled "The Big Lie About Your Fertility". Her response? She got mad. She got mad because she felt that once again, women didn’t know enough about their fertility or the true workings of their biological clocks. Not enough to make truly informed decisions about when to have babies. Or if they were deciding not to have babies without even realizing it.
On Motherhood, Feminism, and the Biological Clock
Here’s a little bit about what Tanya had to say about her book, The Big Lie: Motherhood, Feminism and the Reality of the Biological Clock.
In Cosmo, she answers the question about what The Big Lie means:
“What is the Big Lie?
There are actually several. The biggest is that we can become mothers on our own timetable. Another one is that we can manipulate evolution. There are some people who so badly want to believe that we can control the biological clock with science and reproductive technology. But that is only because we are not really aware of the statistics. As many as 77 percent IVF cycles fail — but we only hear the success stories. People don’t share their stories of loss as readily. I thought if I could speak publically about my story, then other people share theirs, too. These heartbreaking scenarios — of women who gave up after five failed rounds of IVF, for example — can balance the more optimistic ones. It’s not about making people panic. It is about giving them accurate information.”
I had two distinct and opposing reactions to reading this article.
My first was, bravo! We need for women to hear this message, for doctors to hear this message, for our society to hear this message. I particularly liked her idea about fertility charts in Obstetrician/Gynecologists offices. Just like knowing about pap smears and mammograms, understand your fertility. Absolutely. What an inspiring idea; a simple, direct and visionary way to change the way women are educated about their own fertility. The way that feminism was addressed in this article was bold. Tanya is clear and articulate about the play between motherhood and feminism. Here’s what she had to say about it:
"Has feminism played a role in this misconception that women can wait to become mothers?
Feminism advocates for a world where women can pursue their ambitions — it did not tell women to not become mothers. Instead, it told them all the things they could do aside from being a mother. It may have created a tension between feminism and motherhood, but it’s a false tension. If you look at the advances that feminism has made for motherhood — daycares at work, baby seats, breastfeeding education and more, these are all specific concerns women have around being mothers. One of the big lies I address is that we don’t need feminism anymore. We need it more than ever."
My second reaction was that we’ve been talking about this for years. Decades even. This is neither the first nor will it be the last book to discuss these very same issues. Wonderful that is being said again. I love that. I love more that the very issues that she says are not being talked about, I hear talked about all the time. Women, many women, are more and more clear about looking at conception as a time driven issue. In speaking to women in varied work fields, I find so many acutely aware, as early as in their 20’s, that conception is something to factor in. I often hear that there is not an assumption that conception will come easily and they are prepared for needing and getting help.
Making Plans and Understanding Choices is More than a Woman’s Issue
I’m glad this book is out there. Anything to help spread the word. And most especially, getting feminism on the side of motherhood and discontinuing that ridiculous idea that it’s one or the other. Just as careers and motherhood are not one or the other; neither are feminism and motherhood, one or the other.
We are women. We are multi-faceted, with many different interests. We all deserve to know the truth. We deserve to know it early; we deserve to know it accurately. We deserve to hear it from our health care providers so that we can strategize planning our families. I liked that a lot, that phrase. Strategizing having your family.
Making plans and understanding your choices is more than a woman’s issue. It’s society’s issue. Supporting women making choices, early and in time to avoid regrets is one of the messages that I got from this interview.
And for that alone, I will buy and read the book.
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Integrated Wellness Fertility Program
RMACT. We are doing it. We are having our first event as an Integrated and Fertility Wellness Program (IFW). This event is open to the public and is limited to 8-10 people. Please register early as we expect that this event will be well attended. We are so excited, we hope you come join us and treat yourself to a gift for the new year.
Look for blogs to come describing more fully the programs being offered.
Mind-Body Workshop in CT
RMA of CT would like to invite you to a special one day offering of our Mind/Body Program. Our Integrated Fertility and Wellness (IFW) team is presenting this workshop to provide you with valuable tools to assist in reducing stress and increasing fertility.
This workshop includes presentations by:
• Our Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Melissa Kelleher, will discuss the link between stress and fertility. She has trained with world renowned psychologist, Ali Domar, on the Mind/Body program. She will present proven techniques to help reduce stress in your daily life.
• Our Licensed Acupuncturist, Amy Matton, will provide an overview and demonstrate the benefits of acupuncture
• Our Certified Yoga Instructor, Lisa Rosenthal, will lead you through Fertile Yoga and Guided Meditation
• Our Peer Counselor, Carrie Van Steen, will lead a “Mini” session of Ladies Night In
For further information and to enroll in this exciting workshop please contact
Carrie Van Steen at email@example.com
When: Sunday, January 12, 2013 from 12:00pm - 5:00pm
Where: 20 Glover Ave, Norwalk, CT
This group is limited to 12 participants.
Lunch will be served and materials will be distributed.
RSVP: please call 203-731-2520 ext. 289 or e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Breast Health, Mental Health Awareness, and Infertility
Today, in New England, everything is turning khaki green, yellow, orange, red and maroon. And just about every brilliant shade in between.
Given that it’s October, everything’s also turning pink.
Not the trees, but just about everything else. I was watching a football game and couldn’t quite tell, but yes, they were wearing pink sneakers. Professional football players wearing bright pink sneakers.
Good thing that pink is not about being girly or feminine or less than masculine. Pink means something entirely different these days.
If it’s pink, it must be October and that must mean that it’s National Breast Cancer Awareness Month (NBCAM).
Infertility is often likened to a life crisis similar to the one that is faced with cancer. The level of stress, exhaustion, isolation and depression, to name just a few pieces of it. Both, in their own ways, make you question your own mortality and longevity. Both make you question what you have done with your life so far and if you will be able to have your life at all, what it will look like.
And, just as with infertility, there are things that you can do to protect yourself with breast cancer. While you can’t do a single thing about the genes and DNA that you have inherited, even there, you can cut your losses. You can improve your odds.
Photo: SCA Svenska Cellulosa Aktiebolaget (Flickr)
Interestingly enough, you do it the same way you would with preventing infertility. You eat right, exercise properly, sleep enough, and find a way to deal with the ordinary stress that comes to everyone.
When it comes to breast cancer, you also do self exams regularly. Once a month. If you’re not sure how, ask your obstetrician/gynecologist or internist to show you. If you are over 50, the guidelines state getting a mammogram every two years, (although I’m happy that my physicians recommend every year). If you are under 50 and believe that you have significant risk factors (family history, cystic breasts, etc.), speak to your physician and find out what he/she recommends. Find out more about mammorgrams from the Office on Women's Health of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
Infertility doesn’t excuse us from taking care of the rest of ourselves. Our bodies, minds and emotional health all still need to be attended to.
Considering Mental Health During Fertility Treatment
In fact, this week (October 6-12) brings our attention to mental health as well, as it is also Mental Illness Awareness Week (MIAW). If you’re in the midst of fertility treatment, have you considered making an appointment with a mental health professional? Checking in with someone who can help you in case you are really struggling? Infertility and fertility treatment is often isolating, emotionally painful, exhausting and life-altering. Without even realizing it, your life may be affected dramatically as you go through testing, treatment and disappointments when/if fertility treatment cycles are unsuccessful. None of these responses indicate mental illness; they can mean that it’s a good idea to get some help. There’s a lot of help out there and you can feel better.
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Peer Support Groups: Ladies Night In and More
One way that we offer help at Reproductive Medicine Associates of CT (RMACT) is through peer support groups. The leaders (Carrie Van Steen and I) are not mental health professionals. Together, we have been leading Ladies Night In (peer support group) for almost five years. We have both experienced infertility and fertility treatment; we know what it’s like. A peer support group is a place to discuss with people that are experiencing similar challenges all the different aspects of that challenge. It’s a place to go and realize that your responses are normal. It’s a place to go where when you speak of your pain, the others in the group nod their heads. It’s a place to go to have cheerleaders that remind you that you are stronger than you may feel in that moment. It’s a place to go to have a good laugh, so good that the entire group starts laughing with you; it’s that infectious. It’s a place to go to vent and let off that steam that threatens to build up. It’s a place to go to have a question answered and an answer questioned. It’s a place to make friends. (We also have two wonderful mental health professionals at RMACT: Lisa Tuttle, PhD and Melissa Kelleher, LCSW, who offer professional therapeutic care and support.)
Tomorrow night (new night), Tuesday, October 8, is Ladies Night In at the RMACT Danbury office -- 67 Sand Pit Road, Danbury, CT -- from 6-7:30 p.m.
This group is open to the public. It is free and we provide a lovely and delicious dinner.
It’s a place to come to know that you are not alone.
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RMACT Fertility Program Supports Women's Expo
This weekend, September 21 & 22, RMACT will be sponsoring and supporting the first annual Southern Connecticut Women’s Exposition in Bridgeport, CT. RMACT has been pleased to sponsor the Stamford Expos for the last four years and was delighted to be included in supporting this new initiative by Connecticut Expos.
Nick Curci, President of Connecticut Expos, took some time from his pre-Expo plans to speak to me about what this Expo is about and who it’s for. Read below for his answers to my questions.
As always, if you have any questions, please post them here. The questions come directly to me and me alone. I can always answer you privately.
Please note, as a sponsor, RMACT has free tickets for the Expo. Please let us know if you would like one. Or two. Or more. We like to share! ~Lisa Rosenthal
FAQs About the Southern Connecticut Women’s Exposition
1. What should I expect if I come to the Expo? A fun filled day of shopping, entertainment, beauty, health and empowerment.
2. Is this about shopping or health? Both, but a whole lot more with free health screenings including mammograms by St. Vincent’s Health Services, meet and greet two national celebrities from Days of our Lives and WWE, free lectures on 14 women’s health related topics, free makeovers and hair touch ups by Jade Salon, drawing for 4 grand prizes, food and product samples and psychic readings.
3. Should I bring my children or my mother? Absolutely, this is an even for all ages. Great family event for grandmothers, mothers and daughters.
4. Why come to an Expo when I can find all this information online? You can’t meet celebrities, get health screenings, shop with our unique vendors, get free makeovers or attend free health lectures online.
5. How long should I plan on being there? The average person stays almost 4 hours since there is so much to do.
6. Is this a good place to find reliable information? Yes – especially health care related issues.
7. Is there any process that you use to screen the people who are exhibiting at the Expo? No screening of attendees – all are welcome.
8. I’ve been to Expos before, what makes this one different? Items unique to this expo that the Stamford event does not offer are: The celebrities, health lectures and these specific vendors.
9. What do you hope people will take away from the Expo? Answers to health concerns, a positive entertainment experience and empowerment to improve their lives with better health, information, business opportunities and confidence to improve their personal life, business and family matters.
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CT Fertility Center Event Updates
Event updates at RMACT. Please read carefully, some events are only for current RMACT patients. Most events are free and open to the public. Please check our online calendar of events before attending as there are sometimes changes, even the day of the event. Also, we ask you to RSVP to any seminars and Ladies Night In so that we know how many people to expect.
We hope that you can take advantage of some or all of these events. We know that infertility and fertility treatment can be isolating. You have a choice though. You do not have to go through this alone. We are here to help.
“I am Pregnant, Now What?” Ensuring the Health of Expectant Mother & Baby
This seminar will discuss the key components of a healthy lifestyle during pregnancy including appropriate maternal weight gain, physical activity, essential nutrients, vitamins, minerals, environmental toxins and risks, and food safety. Common concerns such as medications, sleep, diet, lifestyle, morning sickness, constipation, anemia, gestational diabetes and hypertension will be addressed.
Please Join Us on Wednesdays in our Danbury Office 67 Sand Pit Road, Suite 300: Wednesday, September 18th; Wednesday, October 16th 4:30-6:00pm. Please arrive 5-10 minutes early. PARTNERS ARE WELCOME TO ATTEND.
Kindly RSVP to Angie 203-750-7413, space is limited. These medically based seminars are considered part of your treatment plan and will be billed through your insurance. Please bring your co-payment, if applicable. Patients who have high deductible plans will be billed through their insurance. See website events calendar: www.RMACT.com or call 800-865-5431 - Click here for more about our healthy pregnancy seminar.
Current RMACT patients only
Ladies Night In
General Peer Support Group with Lisa & Carrie:
Come and meet a terrific group of women that gather monthly to share their stories, feelings, questions and laughs. Experience the relief of talking with other women who understand what you are going through. Build friendships with women who will be by your side throughout your family-building journey.
RMACT Norwalk: 20 Glover Ave (Finance Offices), Thursday – 6:45-8:00 PM (After Fertile Yoga) September 19, 2013.
This group is free of charge. It is facilitated by Lisa Rosenthal & Carrie Van Steen. Carrie and Lisa are both former fertility patients and offer the support and suggestions many of our patients are looking for and really need. If you have any questions, call Carrie at 731.2520 ext 289. Or email her at email@example.com.
Dinner is provided!
Join us at two locations:
Norwalk: 5:45-7:00pm pm (RMACT 20 Glover Avenue, Finance Dept)
Brookfield: 6:00-7:15 pm (At Yogaspace)
Please check the website for any changes. Fertile Yoga is free. Classes will be on-going; come every week or once in a while, whichever suits you.
Come alone or bring your spouse, partner, friend or family member. Yoga, meditation and deep relaxation can help men and women experiencing the challenges of infertility. Fertile Yoga helps couples relax and relaxation can help one make more satisfying decisions, communicate more clearly with their doctor, and sustain treatment with a more positive perspective.
What you need:
- Comfortable, loose fitting clothing
- a yoga mat
- bottle of water
- two pillows (optional)
Please avoid eating one hour before class.
Fertile Yoga was created and is taught by Lisa Rosenthal RYT -200 (Registered Yoga Teacher). Lisa is a former fertility patient, who has been working for over 2o years as a national patient advocate for couples going through infertility. Lisa is uniquely qualified to understand the specific stresses and challenges that couples trying to conceive encounter. Fertile Yoga is designed with different diagnoses and treatment plans in mind. It is a gentle, restorative class that includes meditation.
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Prenatal Yoga is now at RMACT
RMA CT Norwalk: Thursdays 7:15-8:15 pm (Please check online calendar for specific dates) NO CLASS THIS WEEK
20 Glover Ave Finance Office -- $40 for four classes (do not need to be consecutive sessions)
This pre-natal yoga class was created especially for women who have been through fertility treatment. Class is designed around the special physical and emotional needs former fertility patients may have. Any woman, at any stage of pregnancy, is welcome to attend class (with doctor’s approval). We will explore how the body changes through the different stages of pregnancy and learn how to continue to feel healthy and strong until labor and birth. Class will be a combination of relaxation, movement and meditation.
Come join us on the next step of your fertility journey. Please check website for any changes: www.rmact.com Classes will be led by Lisa Rosenthal RYT (Registered Yoga Teacher). Lisa is a former fertility patient, who also worked for over 17 years as a national patient advocate for couples going through infertility. Lisa trained with Lotus Garden for her 200-hour Registered Yoga Teacher, through Yoga Alliance.
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A Pre-Conception Wellness Seminar Tools for Fertility Success
Have you ever wondered if you or your partner were eating, sleeping, managing stress, or exercising differently would it improve fertility success? How about the affects of alcohol consumption, smoking, pesticides, plastics, and body composition on sperm and egg quality?
Please join RMA of CT for an interactive discussion on the benefits of preconception with a fertile lifestyle. We will share how to create a fertile lifestyle and The Fertility DietTM tips that will improve conception success and also help to support a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. Partners are Welcome.
This one session class is conducted by RMA Nutritionist Carolyn Gundell, MS and RMA Nurse Eloise Downs, RN.
Class Offered Monthly on Saturday: September 21st 11:30am-1:00pm
Free Admission and Open to the Public.
Location: RMA Norwalk at 10 Glover Avenue, Norwalk CT RSVP required. Space is limited. Please call Eloise to reserve a seat at 203-750-7427. Please visit our website or call to confirm date, time and/or location as they are subject to change.
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Southern Connecticut Women’s Expo
Please join RMA CT at this unique forum for women to be empowered with education, networking, knowledge and improved health opportunities. This event attracts thousands of women that want to shop for the latest products and services in fashion, beauty, health, nutrition, fitness, financial planning, careers, home, education and much more!
SHOW DATES & HOURS: Saturday, September 21, 11 am-5 pm and Sunday, September 22, 2013, 11 am–5 pm.
LOCATION: The Webster Bank Arena, 600 Main Street Bridgeport, CT 06604
TICKET PRICE: Admission price is $10.00, kids 12 and under are free. $5 parking.
RMACT has free tickets. If you are interested, please pick them up in any of our four offices.
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Take Medical Monday to Consider Whole Health
Monday is time to look at the medical aspects in your life--your whole health.
Chances are, if you are trying to conceive or in fertility treatment, you've got the reproductive organs covered, medically.
Although, many fertility programs don't check on a Pap test. So please check.
Meanwhile, here are a list of medical professionals that you need to consider:
- Dentist! ~ Yes, that's right, it's not enough to have to deal with fertility treatments, you still need to go to the dentist. You need to get your teeth cleaned and examined. You need to be reminded to floss every day and to brush carefully.
- Dermatologist ~ This is a definite maybe. Some of you out there have a reason to go at least once a year. You may have a mole or a birthmark or skin cancer in the family. If you're supposed to go, go. Catching things early can mean the difference between full recovery and not.
- General Practioner ~ For a general overview, see your doctor. You may or may not need a full physical, your doctor will let you know. If you are experiencing any aches and pains, time to speak up.
- Eye doctor ~ Another definite maybe. Certainly if you wear contact lenses or glasses, you need to see your doctor as directed. That might be once a year or once every other year. Check in with them if it's been longer than that and you are not sure.
- Mammogram/Bone density scan ~ Check with your Gynecologist about whether these tests need to be done. Some of them depend on family history, some depend on age.
- Cardiologist, Endocrinologist, etc. ~ You may have personal or family reasons to see these doctors or other specialists.
Don't Ignore Your Overall Health Because of Fertility Treatment
Overall message here is just this simple. Don't ignore other aspects of your physical health because of fertility treatment. We mean it when we say that you are a whole and complete person. Make sure that you are taking care of yourself as a whole and complete person.
And that would include your mental health. Are you getting enough support? Are you shoving feelings way, way, deep inside because you don't know who to share with or to speak with? Do you frequently feel sad, for long periods of time? Or isolated?
There is help out there. Lisa Tuttle, PhD, is a wonderful resource as are peer support groups, like Ladies Night In. This week, Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT) has a very special event for RMACT patients only:
A Fertility Seminar for Couples ~ Free for RMACT patients, please RSVP. April 11, from 5:45-8:00. For our men out there -- "Optimizing Male Fertility" with Dr. Mark Leondires and Carolyn Gundell, MS. Same time, our women can come do Fertile Yoga with Lisa Rosenthal, RYT-200. Afterwards, come together to find "Support and Encouragement for You and Your Partner" with Lisa Tuttle, PhD. A light dinner will be served. RSVP to Jenn at 203-750-7484. Check out our events calendar for more details on all programs.
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International Women's Day 2013
Today, as my friend Pamela reminded me, is International Women's Day. She called, as only one of your best friends can, at what I consider a rather unG~dly hour. Still, her timing was perfect.
I had just finished watching a video from Endometriosis.org, an international platform that has comprehensive and informative information about endometriosis, a disease that affects one in ten women. Their video is one of the best quick overviews that I've seen in quite a while, explaining what and how endometriosis can affect women and what one can do about it. So while I was enjoying this video, with the audio in a lovely english (British? Swedish?) accent, I heard about International Women's Day.
Yep, even with a foot of snow on a gorgeous March morning, the planets do align.
Raising Endometriosis Awareness for Women
What better way to acknowledge International Women's Day and March being Endometriosis Awareness Month than with an international organization?
Big Fertility News
Fertility news is big the last few days. I read some of the conversation online. As you need to be a subscriber to Time Magazine to read the full cover story, I have not done so. I do not want to subscribe to the magazine; I prefer the way that the news has been coming into my consciousness, deliberately.
It's unusual for me to be attracted to the news, I'm embarassed to admit. I've been avoiding the television and the newspapers for quite a while.
Still, the news seeps in. Sometimes it's called to my attention, like it was yesterday about egg freezing.
Time Magazine Cover
What else is all over the news? The new Time Magazine cover. A 3-year-old nursing. Standing up, breastfeeding.
Think it's controversial?
You bet it is.
And, as usual, I'm not going to enter it. I'm a huge believer in live and let live these days.
How does it relate to infertility?
It has to do, once again, with judgement and inflicting one's point of view on someone else. Whether it's political, moral, psychological, or religious, when do we stop assuming that we know better for another human being what's best for them? Or even what's best for their families?
Here's the relationship to infertility: fertility treatment. How many times over the last twenty two years have I heard similar comments and conversations about the fertility treatments that men and women experience as a process to create their families?
Too many times to count.
I've heard the same comments. Identical comments, especially after major technological breakthroughs in fertility treatment. Here are a few:
- It's not natural;
- I would never do that;
- There will be something wrong with those children;
- If God intended . . . (a personal favorite, fill in the blank);
- It should be illegal.
The name of the article, the cover, is "Are You Mom Enough?".
For those of us going though infertility, we are already Mom and Dad enough.
That's how dedicated and determined we are to have our families. Despite what someone else might question, we are already enough.
And we don't have to let anyone else decide for us whether fertility treatment is moral or what God intended.
On a political side note, we should keep an eye out about the legal piece of it. There are many in political office that would make the decisions for us. Careful who you vote for.
Fertility Foods for Women's Health: The Avocado
Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT)'s very own fertility foods specialist, Nutritionist Carolyn Gundell, has shared her latest and greatest with us: a delicious, LOWER FAT guacamole recipe.
How is it possible to have a lower fat recipe? Are avocado's healthy with the fat content that they have? Read on, because the answer is that this is a great way to celebrate National Women's Health Week in May. Say yes to the avocado!
Keep that Fertile Avocado on your Grocery List
By Carolyn Gundell, MS, RMACT Nutritionist
“Skinny Guacamole!” I asked myself, “Could this be possible?” I love guacamole, avocado, and the fact that the delicious avocado is so very nutritious. But, buyer beware, avocado calories depend on type and serving size. One whole California avocado averages 220-240 calories and a whole Florida avocado could be up to 365 calories--mostly fat, although healthy fat. We can eat too much of a good thing.
Low-Fat Guacamole Recipe Tip
But let’s get back to this skinny guacamole idea. I was sitting reading my latest Eating Well magazine and found a low-fat recipe for guacamole. Fantastic! Could this be true and really taste good too? Yes, replace ½ of the avocado with cooked drained zucchini and save 100 calories in ½ cup serving. Add ¼ cup each of cilantro and onion, 2 minced garlic, 2 TB lime juice, ½ tsp hot sauce, ¼ tsp salt. Herbs and spices are all optional. Adjust to taste. Thank you Eating Well magazine.
The Avocado's Attributes: Nutrition for Fertility
So why is avocado so fabulous and what does it have to do with nutrition for fertility for both men and women? An avocado is high in nutrients important for pre-conception health and pregnancy. Avocados are nutrient dense with folate (folic acid), healthy monounsaturated fats, vitamin C, K, additional B vitamins, potassium and other minerals and fiber. Healthy fat (monounsaturated and omega-3 and low omega-6 polyunsaturated fats) plays a role in estrogen production and reproductive hormonal balance. Avocadoes are also rich in phytonutrients which can help protect cells from damage. When using the avocado as an ingredient in balanced menus of healthy, whole grain, low-fat protein, fresh veggies and fruit it adds fiber and healthy fat that can help keep blood sugar (glucose) levels low.
8 Ways to Eat Your Avocado and Stay Calorie-Wise
So, be calorie-wise with your avocado:
- Use as a spread in place of mayonnaise
- Try the above referenced guacamole dip in a ½ cup serving size with low fat crackers, pita, chips
- Add chunks to green salads, chopped salads, chicken salad
- Add to salsa, bean dishes, tabouleh, quinoa
- Add to sauces to saute with chicken, such as mango, avocado, lemon
- Add to slices of tomato, mozzarella for side veggie with dinner or snack
- Add to salad dressing and smoothie recipes
- Consider the avocado as one of your healthy fats along with almonds, walnuts, pumpkin seeds, peanuts, nut butters, brazil nuts, and olive and canola oil and others.
Thanks, Carolyn, for the great recipe.
Don't forget Ladies Night In at the Danbury office from 6:00 to 7:45 p.m., with Carrie Van Steen and me, Lisa Rosenthal.
We eat, we talk, we laugh, we cry, we share. And more. Come join us this evening. For more information, click here.
Why Not Talk About Fertility Medications?
When was the last time that you saw a fertility medication advertised on TV? How about on a billboard? A magazine ad?
Have you ever seen a fertility medication advertised anywhere?
How about for ED? Erectile Dysfunction. The little blue pill. It’s advertised everywhere.
One of the women in my pre-natal yoga class last night, pregnant with the help of fertility medications, pointed this out to the group last night.
How did getting pregnant become something that is hidden and somehow shameful but getting an erection is okay to talk about?
Please don’t misunderstand me. I’m fine with talking about and treating erectile dysfunction. It should be treated. It should be talked about.
The question is, why aren’t fertility medications advertised and well known? Why aren’t ads treating the subject gently and compassionately everywhere, making men and women comfortable about getting fertility treatment?
Why We Talk About Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
It’s been suggested to me that it’s because with erectile dysfunction (ED), it’s about penises. Ok, I understand that. But it’s a simple answer that relies on sexism and I don’t buy it. Men want their erections, right. So do their partners want them to have erections! We want to be able to function sexually. And if something is getting in the way of that, we should be able to have that addressed, as with ED.
Infertility is not a problem with sexuality. It’s a problem of reproduction and the reproductive system. It’s not a problem with whether you are meant to be a parent or not, or whether you are being judged by God about how good a parent you might be. It’s a disorder of the reproductive system.
So maybe the question (and you know I love questions) is, if we see advertisements about asthma, depression, and migraines, why don’t we see them about fertility medications?
It's Time to Talk About Reproductive Dysfunction
How did infertility and reproductive dysfunction become something we need to be ashamed of? Any more than we would be about asthma, depression or migraines? What is so special or different about having a disorder of our reproductive systems as compared to any other system in our bodies?
Here’s my answer.
It’s not different, unless we continue to see it that way.
And as long as we continue to be ashamed of infertility, differently than of asthma, breast cancer, ED, or any other dysfunction or disease, we allow ourselves to have less health insurance and coverage; we accept that fertility treatment can’t be discussed easily or openly; and often, we struggle alone.
And rest assured. You are not alone. In fact, you surrounded by infertility support.
I struggled with infertility. I am not less of a woman or of a person because of it, nor was I when I was in the midst of it.
Neither are you.
You are not alone.
We are here.
I am here.