Very happy to be home. Wonderful vacation, lovely wedding. Still, very happy to be home. Interesting that even on vacation, thoughts of infertility pop up. Even at a wedding. Or especially at a wedding.
Watching two twenty three year old people get married, it did occur to me that perhaps that should be illegal. Too young, too soon, too early. But of course, it's not. And what other thoughts come up at a wedding? You know. When are they going to start a family, have a baby. The beautiful couple that I watched exchanging vows weren't married for more than ten minutes before that question was being discussed.
The assumption of course, is that life will go just as planned. They met, grew to love each other, decided to marry. Natural next step, babies.
I didn't say much about it all. But when it came time to toast the happy couple, that was my wish for them. There were plenty of calls for happy and healthy lives. Plenty of calls for other sweet things in their new life together. My wish for them was fertility.
My husband thought I was being a bit of a cynic, assuming that they would have a problem. Being married as long as we have been, he was certainly not going to suggest that I was wishing it on them by thinking about it. I felt a kinship to the witch in Sleeping Beauty, not the wicked one, but the who got in the last wish.
After the wish was made that the princess die from pricking her finger, there was one more fairy who had a wish...
At this very instant the young fairy came out from behind the hangings, and spake these words aloud: "Assure yourselves, O King and Queen, that your daughter shall not die of this disaster. It is true, I have no power to undo entirely what my elder has done. The princess shall indeed pierce her hand with a spindle; but, instead of dying, she shall only fall into a profound sleep, which shall last a hundred years, at the expiration of which a king's son shall come and awake her."
My wish for this young, healthy, hopeful, beautiful married couple is that infertility not enter their lives. I want that to be the last wish made, the last blessing said over their heads.
For those of you already struggling with infertility, this is the fairy I want to be for you, the one who can help undo or mitigate or transform. "I have no power to undo entirely...." I will settle for offering help, support, advice while you're on this fertility journey.