Thanksgiving Gratitude ~ Additional RMACT Messages
I'm thankful for working with a group of amazing people at RMA! Your warm greeting and big smile always make my day! With the support from all of you, I'm able to become an independent woman and have the ability to support my daughter's education. I can't say it enough, thank you, thank you!!!
I'm thankful for our patients who trust me and let me be part of their special journey. Every positive pregnancy, every baby's picture had given me a sense of accomplishment! For those who had difficult time during the journey, your courage inspired me all the time!
I'm thankful for the challenges in my life, it makes me grow stronger!
I'm thankful for love, health and food, it makes my life meaningful and joyful!!!
Wish everybody a great, great Thanksgiving!
I have so enjoyed everyone’s messages!
I am thankful for you all being a part of my life.
We all experience, on a daily basis, the highs and lows of our patients in this sensitive private area of medicine. I am thankful, that together, we negotiate those highs and lows with poise, science, and hope. We have built something meaningful and helped thousands of patients over the past 12 years.
Truly there is much to give thanks for.
I am thankful for coffee in a pretty mug, time to go for a run with my husband, happy children in my bed at 5am, and the two pregnant mommas in my neighborhood that will both deliver RMA Ct babies next Spring!!!
I am thankful for the dynamic team that I work with everyday. Not only are they hardworking, driven, conscientious, and supportive of each other-they also make me laugh every day until I almost cry, and then laugh some more.
I am thankful for wonders that occur every day in front of our eyes—for the frozen water that falls from the skies to the warm feeling of the energy that hits our skin on a sunny day coming from the inconceivably large ball of burning gas that is the sun. I am thankful for all of the convoluted coincidences over countless generations that have culminated in my being right here at this very moment. And I think of one of my favorite poems as well, by e.e. cummings:
i thank You God for most this amazing
day:for the leaping greenly spirits of trees
and a blue true dream of sky; and for everything
which is natural which is infinite which is yes
(i who have died am alive again today,
and this is the sun’s birthday; this is the birth
day of life and of love and wings: and of the gay
great happening illimitably earth)
how should tasting touching hearing seeing
breathing any–lifted from the no
of all nothing–human merely being
doubt unimaginable You?
(now the ears of my ears awake and
now the eyes of my eyes are opened)
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Fertility Practice's Grateful Thoughts: RMACT Team Shares
We are grateful to you, our patients. You put your trust in us to help you create your families. For that we are grateful.
We are grateful to each other, here at team RMACT. We work as a team, to bring about your dreams. We like each other, we respect each other, for that we are grateful.
Here are some Thanksgiving wishes and words of gratitude from our RMACT team. ~ Lisa Rosenthal
I am thankful that we are able to make dreams come true!! And for much much more!!!
I am so grateful for my family and all of the wonderful people who share my world. I'm also fortunate to love what I do and to work at a facility that helps people every day and shares my value system. What else could a girl ask for?
I am thankful for so much. I am truly thankful to come to a place to work that truly changes peoples' lives. I am thankful to be part of the RMACT team and for supportive co-workers and senior staff.
I am thankful for my mother and brother who are truly sources of unfaltering love and support. I am thankful for my friends who accept me for who I am and are always there for me. I am thankful for my extended family here at RMACT who throughout the years has been there for me. I am thankful for laughter because it gets me through the toughest of situations many times. Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
Oh gratitude, speak, scream, cry.
Thank the Gods and the Goddesses for the miracle of life,
For the producers of seeds, the stars,
For the ever pregnancy of our mother earth,
For science and its doctors,
Their philosophy and curiosity that inquire them
To help nature in the process of evolution,
Thanks for giving me the opportunity to be part of RMA-CT where I can offer my hand
To many humans beings in need of the gift of a complete family.
Oh gratitude, do not be silent,
Let us all gather during this Thanksgiving Day,
Call all our children, the diamonds of our lives
To celebrate the magnificence of our extended family
And while the world is lit on fire,
Let us light it with the flame of love.
The solid foundation of a supportive and encouraging family who have allowed me the room to dream big, aim high and catch me when I stumble is what I am most thankful for this year. I feel incredibly thankful for my RMACT family as well – I know how lucky I am to be surrounded by these dedicated, generous, smart, and funny people and am incredibly proud to be a part of this practice.
I am thankful for my health and the health of my family which allows me to “pay it forward” in this amazing field of reproductive medicine. Whether it’s helping to physically build RMACT’s future, running a Ladies Night In session with Lisa or even answering a patient’s cry for help at 10pm on a Saturday night it’s what I live for and what I am thankful for every day. Thank you for taking care of me as a patient 11 years ago, for my two beautiful girls that will be 10 this May and of course supporting me through this most recent RMACT project.
For some lighter iPark related humor, I am most thankful for a brilliant team of architects, designers and contractors, the amazing wall covering that’s about to go up, the carpet in the den, the gorgeous, huge utility rooms, the paint color “smoked oyster,” perfect weather that kept us on schedule, and I will stop now.
I am thankful for so many things – my health, my children, family and loved ones. I am truly grateful for making new friends and keeping the old ones. I am thankful for the smooth transition I’m making here at RMACT – I have found that my coworkers have really embraced me as if I have been a part of the team for years . . . That is not something you find at every job. Not only has the staff made an effort to welcome me with open arms and warm smiles but so have the patients, even while going through their own ups and downs here.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with lots of love, laughs and food.
I cherish every day and I am grateful that every day is an opportunity to start something new. I am thankful for every person in my life that offers me support along my journey, those who bring me joy, the ones that make me laugh, the ones that listen to me and the ones that trust me to listen to them. I am thankful to RMACT, personally and professionally, and could not be happier for being part of the team.
I am thankful for my loving family!! Those here today and those that are no longer with us. Without them, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. My heart would certainly not be this full!! They keep me on my toes and always smiling.
I am thankful for laughing, for I feel it is the greatest medicine.
Last, I am thankful for my warm bed, the food to feed my family, and the loving hugs that I am so blessed to receive! Happy Thanksgiving all!!!!
I have so much to be thankful for, a wonderful husband and my two beautiful children that give my life a purpose in a way that I never imagined. I am grateful to work in a profession and at RMACT where coming to work is something more than “just a job”.
I feel fortunate and thankful to spend time with family and friends on the holidays and to not take for granted that I have a roof over my head and a beautiful meal on the table.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving everyone!
Here is a thanksgiving quote that I like by John Fitzgerald Kennedy: “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” I am thankful for my friends, old and new. My family including my 80 year old parents…how lucky we are to still have them and their wisdom. My daughter who brings daily joy to my life. My pets who love me no matter what. My colleagues and co-workers who work hard and truly care about our patients as well as each other on a daily basis. Google who has taught me the difference between colleague and co-worker. My health – how lucky to be breathing, walking and even dancing. Last but not least, God, who watches over and cares for all of us. Happy Thanksgiving!
I am thankful for my dad who has not been in the best health, but still insists on bringing me coffee every morning :) I'm thankful for my boyfriend who has helped me through all of my dad's health scares, and my family who always helps each other.
I am thankful for a family that has taught me unconditional love, a husband who makes me lighter than I am, and a job that continues to teach me the power of hope and resilience.
I am most thankful for my family. I am beyond grateful for my dad and his health and his awesome recovery after having his heel completely re-constructed & being in and out of hospitals for over a year. He is the strongest person, mentally and physically that I know and still manages to do everything for our family. I am thankful for my mom for holding it together and always smiling, my sister for being her crazy self, and little brother who keeps me young. And my boyfriend who I recently moved in with and still loves me!
I am so thankful to be part of the process by which our patients can build their family, regardless of the outcome. I never take for granted how special I feel to be an integral part of someone’s journey and never tire of calling someone to tell them that they are pregnant.
I also realize that the staff at RMA CT is incredibly special and am grateful to be a part of it.
I am most thankful for my health, to be able to wake up every day and enjoy my time with my loved ones. I am also thankful for being blessed with a new wonderful marriage and 5 step children, whom I truly adore…. Being able to work for RMACT itself is rewarding. I love what I do and am VERY thankful to be a part of this family…May you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
I am thankful first and foremost for my family. My healthy, thriving children that are happy and full of love & hope for the future, my wonderfully loving & supportive husband that is a rock. Time and time again he proves there is nothing we can’t accomplish without each other, my parents, for their love not only for me, but my children; there isn’t a time they haven’t dropped everything to be there for us, my brothers & sisters and numerous nieces and nephews. I am grateful for the memories we are creating for our children. They are all filled with such love for each other. My friends. I have the best friends in the world. I love our chats, I love that we are at a point in our lives that we can laugh and cry in the same conversations. And lastly, I am forever grateful for the work we all do at RMACT. I look forward to going to work everyday and for that I am grateful!
I am thankful that each day I wake up in a place where nature’s beauty is easily accessible. I am grateful for good health, my close-knit family, for all the people who have faith in me. I am thankful for the opportunity to work with people who are interesting, passionate and dedicated.
This year is a tough year for my family. This is the first thanksgiving without my dad. So first off, I am so grateful for all the amazing time I got to share with him. I am so grateful that he was able to walk me down the aisle on my wedding day. He was my biggest supporter who always told me I am capable of anything I put my mind to. I am also grateful for my mom who has been such a rock for our entire family. My sisters and brother who know exactly what to do to make me mad and laugh 'til I’m crying but I wouldn’t trade them for anything. And to my wonderful husband who has been the one to keep me going every day. And to everyone at RMACT for your kind words through the toughest time of my life, thank you for being there when I just needed someone to cry to or a simple hug.
I am thankful for coffee in a pretty mug, time to go for a run with my husband, happy children in my bed at 5am, and the two pregnant mommas in my neighborhood that will both deliver RMA CT babies next Spring!!!
I’d like to share a nice image from yesterday with everyone:
After a successful initial pregnancy scan in Trumbull yesterday, I watched through the big windows the couple walk out to their cars together and give each other a very tender, long and meaningful hug before they got into their respective cars. I am thankful that we can give our patients these special moments together in their life’s journey.
Happy and meaningful thanksgiving to all!
I am most grateful to my family; for my sister who has always kept my secrets, my father who has always made me laugh, my mother who always knows just what to say, and my husband who accepts me just as I am.
I am most grateful for my husband who has been by my side from when I thought I could handle things on my own and who has never given up on me. For my parents and my sister – without them I would not be as successful as I am without their support from switching careers and have pushed me to never give up and go for the highest of stars. (Even if tears are/were involved). Lastly, I am grateful for my twin daughters whose personalities brighten up any kind of day. They are my pride and joy!
I am thankful for another year with my wonderful family and friends. I am blessed with the greatest sister, the most supportive husband, a mother with a heart of gold and three adventurous sons. This year I have been given the opportunity to not just work but learn from the incredible team at RMACT. I have always believed it is the little things in life that are important and that every day is a blessing.
This year, I am thankful for the opportunity to join the RMACT team. I now look forward to coming to work every day, and being a part of an incredible team, so committed to our mission of providing compassionate and supportive care for our patients. I am also eternally thankful for my family and friends who provide me with ongoing support and encouragement. Happy Thanksgiving!
I am thankful for all the people who work with RMACT. They are so special and work tirelessly to help our patients meet their goals. Every person at RMACT is part of the puzzle that makes it all happen. And, I thank our patients for allowing us to be part of their life. Thank you and have a great Thanksgiving.
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Infertility and the Day After Thanksgiving
Whether you are choosing to indulge in shopping or relaxing into peaceful serenity or some combination of the two, the day after Thanksgiving is just that: the day after. It may have been a lovely day or a rough day or some variation. Fertility announcements abound at this time of the year and putting on a happy face when you are feeling sad for yourself is not always easy. Nor is it gentle on our own hearts.
Overindulging can take on a lot of forms. Eating is only one. Whether we eat because it’s delicious or because we’re sad or happy or any other feeling, we do sometimes overdo it.
Wearing a mask for too long is burdensome and emotionally exhausting. We wear a mask when we feel one way and say and act another way. That can be over indulging too; not honoring yourself and your feelings as valid and important.
We tend to overindulge on holidays, in so many ways. We create an idea, based on the past about how the holiday “should” be. Or we decide how we want it to be. Rarely are we available to experience the moments as they are. That’s over indulging too, one of my favorite kinds, where our fantasies become more tangible than our realities.
An Invitation to Yoga Nidra and Finding Your Center
The Friday after Thanksgiving, I teach a way to achieve Yoga Nidra instead of any of my regular classes. It’s become a tradition up at PhysEd in New Milford, CT, for my students who are used to a vigorous class to come, practice lightly and then repose into Savasana for almost an hour.
That’s almost 60 minutes of lying down, having arranged the physical body as comfortably as possible, and sinking into yoga sleep. My favorite definition of Yoga Nidra from Swami Jnaneshvara Bharati is below:
Yoga Nidra means Yogic Sleep. It is a state of conscious Deep Sleep. In Meditation, you remain in the Waking state of consciousness, and gently focus the mind, while allowing thought patterns, emotions, sensations, and images to arise and go on. However, in Yoga Nidra, you leave the Waking state, go past the Dreaming state, and go to Deep Sleep, yet remain awake. While Yoga Nidra is a state that is very relaxing, it is also used by Yogis to purify the Samskaras, the deep impressions that are the driving force behind Karma.
According to the definition of Yoga Nidra and what it is and what it is not, I do not teach or facilitate Yoga Nidra. I create pathways of getting there by using guided meditation to achieve this. I am excited to be teaching Yoga Nidra in a more traditional way this Friday. I hope to have you join me.
On Friday night, Fertile Yoga will meet twice, once from 6-7:15 and then from 7:30-8:30. You are welcome to one or the other or both.
It will be my first foray into a more traditional Yoga Nidra. I would love to have your company.
Whether you have indulged too vigorously in food, or drink, or happiness or sadness, Yoga Nidra will be a way to recenter yourself. To find your way back home.
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Gratitude from the RMA CT Fertility Team
It's been four years since the PathtoFertility blog started. From the very first year, on special occasions, we collected the thoughts and sentiments of the Reproductive Medicine Associates of CT fertility team members to share with you.
This Thanksgiving, we celebrate the fourth anniversary of PathtoFertility and we continue the tradition of sharing what each one of us is grateful for.
For me, that one is easy. I'm grateful for you, my readers, sharers and inspirers.
Read on to hear from the other members of the RMACT team.
And Happy Thanksgiving ~Lisa Rosenthal
Thanksgiving Thoughts and Love
I am thankful for my Mother and her unconditional love. No matter how difficult her day was she saw beauty in her life. She taught me the importance of listening and learning and I am thankful for all that I do learn from my patients and co-workers every day.
I’m grateful for my family, friends, and the men and women who serve our country!
I am thankful for my girls. Their infectious laughter makes me smile. They are the best of friends and that relationship with each other is what I am most thankful for.
I am thankful for my family including my furry boy, Jake, and his unconditional love. I am thankful for my friends and all the wonderful times we share. I am thankful for all the great people that I work with and their help throughout the year. I am especially thankful to the RMA patients that I have had the good fortune to meet-please know that you are truly an inspiration to me. Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
I am thankful for my wonderful family and friends. I have truly been given a blessed life and hope that I can give back some of the joy I have received. Thanksgiving should be every day!
Today and every day I am thankful for my family, health and everything I have been blessed with….
I am thankful to work with great people that touch many lives and bring happiness to many families…
I am thankful for being able to say I love my job!
I am thankful for life, family, friends and my many blessings! I am also grateful for laughter because it fills me with joy and love it makes me feel what is means to truly be alive!
I am thankful for each beautiful new day when I awake and that I am healthy to enjoy each day. I’m thankful for the love and support of my family and that they too are healthy. I’m thankful for having a wonderful medical office to work for and with.
I’m grateful for my DVR which allows me to record my TV shows to watch without commercials. I’m grateful for the Empire Szechuan restaurant which delivers and gets the food to you within 20 min. I’m grateful for my home which greets me with warmth every time I walk in. And I’m grateful for my family who loves me, supports me, protects me and encourages me.
2013 has been a challenging year – so I am most thankful for getting through it stronger and more patient than before and grateful for what I have learned along the way. I am hoping for all of us to have a more peaceful and joyous year ahead.
I am also grateful for the more lighthearted and enjoyable moments and whimsical discoveries I made this year – the eggplant frites at The Little Pub, dancing in the kitchen with my son to 80’s dance music, swimming with dolphins, renewed love of all things Andy Cohen, tank tops from Yummie Tummie, Dark Chocolate almond milk, and my Laura Mercier Caviar eye liner sticks.
i am grateful for my family, good health, great friends, and for a job I love that feels meaningful.
Shaun Williams, MD
I am grateful for the opportunity and trust given to me to help provide care for the individuals I see, and I am grateful for everyone at RMA who helps make that care as successful as possible.
Also for many other things: those that teach us and our families, the wonderful new office we have in Trumbull, and the recognition that just being in the here and now is an amazing thing—just to name a few.
I’m thankful for everyday things in life that bring delight, relaxation, and peace to the day.
I am most thankful for the team who gave me my beautiful twin daughters through RMA and for the support I received. I am also thankful for being able to “pay it forward: for others who are going through treatment and I am able to share my experience to help make their journey less stressful. Also thankful for my family who is extremely supportive who taught me to never give up amongst other life lessons. Last but not least, I am thankful for a wonderful husband that stands by my side through the toughest times.
Mark Leondires, MD
I am grateful and honored for the opportunity to work in such a wonderful field, with such wonderful colleagues, and with patients on their fertility journeys. While not everything works out in life how we want, working through the peaks and valleys is what living is truly about. I am thankful that I am always able to keep hope on the horizon as my guide.
I am thankful for life… Waking up every day and having the energy to work, so I would be able to provide for all my kids as a single parent… I am thankful for working for a great place and helping others create a family…
I am reminded every day to be grateful for what I have (even through the struggles) I am able to go home to those smiling faces who depend on me to lead them in the right direction in life… I am thankful for my kids who made me who I am today…
I am thankful for my children, my family, and my dog who takes Prozac (literally).
On the shallow side, I am thankful for my fireplace, The Grinch, and my Vitamix blender.
I am also thankful that the people I work with make me laugh all the time.
I am thankful for my husband, children and my grandchildren, who are all a joy.
I am greatful for my position with RMA!
I am blessed to have my daughter who just made High Honors with her (7) A’s and (2) B’s
I am thankful that I found a doctor and my daughter’s physical pain is easing up
I am grateful for my health..the ability to get up and get out into the world every day is heaven. I recently had a scare with corneal abrasions which made so thankful for the ability to see and to function.
I am thankful for my beautiful children who wouldn’t be here if not for what we do every day. I am thankful for what I had to endure in order to get them in my arms as that gave me the courage I never knew I had and that it ultimately put me on the path I travel today with RMA. (I didn’t mean for that to rhyme, lol)
I am grateful for my husband and family. Through all the struggles I have had, their constant support helps me to be a stronger person.
Spencer Richlin, MD
I am thankful for working with such a talented reproductive staff. Their talent and expertise helps our patients become pregnant and makes my job easy and successful
I am thankful for my amazing husband and wonderful family. Without them, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. They give me so much strength, happiness, love and support. I just feel so blessed to have them in my life. They are what truly matters to me.
I am thankful first and foremost for my health, and the health of my family. I am grateful for all the blessings in my life; a loving husband, the family I always dreamed of, a warm roof over my head, friends that care for me, the opportunity to work in a field where I am a small part of a team making a difference in people’s lives. I am also thankful that although things haven’t always been the way I have planned in life I have the support network and capacity to hope for a better tomorrow.
This Thanksgiving I am thankful for my loving family. We are all very busy between work, school, and sports and it’s very easy to get lost in our crazy lives. Taking the time to think of my family truly makes me feel loved
I am grateful that I have options; that I am free to make choices.
Being a woman.
Conversations that make me think and the people I have them with
My wrinkles because they are evidence of my laughter and wisdom throughout the years
Love, and that I am loved
The taste and smell of coffee. Also, my new favorite smell…Expresso candles
A great pedicure
The kindness of strangers
Surviving storms of 2013
The hard times: Because they've made me stronger and wiser, and the good times even better.
Friends I've yet to make: I look forward to meeting them! Hmm, I wonder who they'll be.
I’m grateful for all of the disappointments, failures and tragedies that I’ve survived in my lifetime. They are proof that there is no obstacle I can’t overcome and that as long as my feet are pointed in the right direction, all I need to do is keep walking.
Joshua Hurwitz, MD
Reproductive Medicine shows us the best and worst of times for our patients. I am always thankful that the worst times are followed by the best, and that our patients trust our team enough to help them through their medical and personal journeys to help build their families.
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A Thanksgiving Offering to Fertility Patients
PathtoFertility is a team effort. A Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut team effort. Here's a blog by one of our most beloved team members, Nurse Practioner, Monica Moore. One of the most read blogs in the last four years was a blog that she wrote about how it felt to be "on the other end of the negative pregnancy test phone call". Today's blog is about gratitude. Me, I'm grateful for Monica for putting together her thoughts in such an eloquent and poignant way to share with us all. ~Lisa Rosenthal
It’s Thanksgiving week, and I was speaking to one of my sweet and beautiful patients who had just been told that she had no normal embryos to transfer post Comprehensive Chromosome Screening (CCS) cycle.
Of course, we were both upset at the results, but, true to her character, she accepted the results graciously, even taking the time during this difficult and emotionally charged conversation to thank me and Dr. Hurwitz for our role in her care. Unbelievable that she would think of us when our role lately seems to be only that of harbinger of bad news.
First, a little background. (She was asked and gave permission for me to share her story anonymously.) She married late in life, not finding her true partner until she was 39.They quickly realized that they would need help creating their family, so she came in for her initial consult at age 40. Luckily, she was able to achieve a pregnancy as a result of an IVF cycle, and her little boy is now almost 2 and the center of their busy lives.
Knowing that she wanted more children, she returned to see us at age 42, and was told that she “had the ovaries of a younger woman,” that is, she had many follicles and blood markers that indicate good ovarian function. She completed her first IVF cycle with CCS and it was found that she had no normal embryos. She wanted to do another cycle right away, but it was financially a challenge as her insurance was not covering any of these cycles due to her age. She was able to ask for a loan from a family member, and completed another cycle, where the embryos made never made it to the blastocyst stage and were unable to be biopsied. The most recent cycle was only able to occur as a result of her taking out a loan against her 401k in order to finance it and, as stated above, no normal embryos.
Apparently her “younger” ovaries were deceiving us. They looked younger by clinical markers but were not making good quality, chromosomally normal embryos.
What next? This is a smart lady in the medical field, able to easily understand the language of fertility treatment. Dr Hurwitz has reviewed all of the stats and the numbers with her, she knows the chance of achieving a healthy pregnancy with her own eggs is low and, at this point, she and her husband do not want to utilize donor eggs.
Problem is that she is a person, not a compilation of numbers and statistics. An amazing, giving person with feelings and desires who is also a great mom. She deserves to have another baby. We discussed her options and she realizes that if she went to a bank to ask for money for an investment, that her “rate of return” would be low in this case. But what is the risk of not trying? How do you quantify that? Would she always wonder “what if?” It’s just money, right? What about the fact that she is using money that she would be using for her existing family (college funds, home repairs) to finance the potential for another child. How does she reconcile that in her decision-making process?
At the end of our conversation she asked me the question, “What would you do if you were me? If I was your sister or your friend”? I actually consider her a friend, we have known each other a few years, shared feelings and thoughts and my suggestions are important to her decision-making. I can hear her pain and understand that she doesn’t feel that her family is complete, but I also know the financial and emotional investment that she has made for the past 2 years and see the toll this is taking on her.
I told her that I honestly didn’t know (not helpful, I realize). I can’t possibly know what it feels like to have to make this kind of decision, but what I do know is how it feels to be inadequate. All my years of experience and degrees from school haven’t prepared me to make her dream come true. What I can do, though, and what I plan to do, is to help her through this process, regardless of outcome.
It takes courage to open up and share feelings and experiences.
I will admit that even if we are not experiencing your exact experience, we share your sense of helplessness.
So this message is a tribute to her and others like her who let us into their lives and invite us to be part of their very personal journeys.
We are grateful.
~Monica Moore MSN, RNC
Thanksgiving thoughts, during the days before the holiday.
Preparations are in full swing. Travel arrangements are also being commenced or coordinated, whether driving, flying or picking people up.
Cooking or meal planning has started and shopping for ingredients is obvious when you walk into any grocery store.
Expectations are high. We are to be thankful, grateful, happy, content.
Uh, huh. Except for when we're not.
Infertility and Gratitude
Today's blog is about infertility and gratitude and thanksgiving.
So many of us experiencing infertility do feel gratitude about so many things. I know this because I get to speak to so many of you.
Here's what I've heard lately, from you, about gratitude and thanksgiving, in your voices:
- "I'm grateful for the strength and foundation of my marriage"
- "I'm grateful for the support and help my friends have given me"
- "Every single day, I find things that bring me joy"
- "I'm so thankful for my job, which is so fulfilling"
- "The support that I feel from my family holds me up"
- "How interesting to see where support comes from, unexpected people who understand what I'm going through"
- "I love noticing the things that make other people smile"
- "Music brings me joy, even on the worst days"
- "Knowing that my husband is there for me, means everything"
- "I know that a child will enter my life, one way or another"
- "My faith sustains me"
- "I'm so grateful for the medical care and attention that I get from my doctors and medical staff"
- "Infertility has deepened many relationships for me, including the one with myself. Who knew I had the strength to go through fertility treatment, with shots, and medication and more?
Just little tidbits that I have gotten from all of you. You may recognize your words or your sentiments. Or you may be inspired by someone else's words and thoughts.
Thanksgiving is a time of hope and expectation.
That can be a lot tougher to create than a Thanksgiving dinner.
Would you please tell me what you're grateful for this Thanksgiving?
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Struggling with Infertility
A common scenario when we are struggling with infertility is that we feel alone; we feel that no one truly understands the magnitude of what we are going through. We withdraw from friends and family because their concern, although well meaning, is frequently hurtful or intrusive. Even when our friends and family say precisely the right thing, at the right time and drop the subject the moment that you ask them to, we still experience pain. It makes holidays, get togethers, even simple conversations a strain where once it was easy and comfortable.
Peer Support Group Privileges
I feel honored to help facilitate a peer support group where we laugh, cry, help, support and educate one another. I’m very thankful and grateful for this group of women who show up, lay it on the line and tell it like it is. Relationships are formed and valuable bonds are made in these groups. Why can we tell strangers things that we cringe about sharing with those who love us?
Simple, really. We understand. We get it. Who else really does get what it’s like to go to friends for an evening and have to disappear into the bathroom? Together, I mean, your partner and yourself. LOL. Who else understands that it makes you want to laugh and cry at the same time? Who else understands that there’s a part of you that hopes your friends think that you are having hot sex in the bathroom, not getting a shot in your derriere? Who else understands that your vacation is being postponed because you’re in the middle of a cycle? Who else understands what it’s like to get one more birth announcement, one more whispered “I’m pregnant”? Who else understands our younger sisters conceiving and having children and our hearts full for them and breaking for ourselves?
Cultivating Gratitude: Make Your Own List
So for those of us who get it, here’s my list of things that infertility makes me grateful for, in case feeling grateful feels like a really big stretch, or even impossible:
- Ovulating each month
- Front desk person at your fertility clinic smiling at you
- Getting your period regularly
- Have insurance coverage for fertility treatment
- Have veins that cooperate in getting blood drawn
- Struggling with PCOS and finding ways to minimize the impact
- Getting a positive pregnancy test
- Able to face the emotional roller coaster that is infertility treatment
- Fertile Yoga
- Are healthy and young enough to be able to consider fertility treatment
- Producing enough follicles to go through In Vitro Fertilization
- Able to do IUI’s (Intra uterine inseminations) with a high probability of success
- Have the financial resources to continue treatment even without insurance coverage
- Professional therapists who have the ability to make us see things differently, espcially our feelings
- Nurses who are approachable and compassionate
- A fertility program where you are treated as a whole person and not a walking diagnosis
- Getting your period after three or four months
- Ultrasound showing a heartbeat
- A painless transfer
- A nutritionist that is not judgemental, but really really helpful
- A retrieval that goes smoothly and easily
- Live in a day and age where third party reproductive technology is available
- Can compare one fertility specialist (board certified reproductive endocrinologist) to another and pick one who is the best fit
- Having access to complementary programs that enhance your chances of conception
- Not strangling your friend/family member/co-worker/boss/partner/waitress who asks yet again when you are going to have a baby
- Live in a state where it’s mandated that infertility is covered by insurance
- Passion tea
- Able to turn to a partner for help and support
- Ultrasound showing a sac
- Feeling hope that this time the cycle will work and there will be a baby at the end of the rainbow
What goes on your list? Share your ideas in the comments and we'll build a new list together. I’m grateful to you, my community, my group who gets it--for reading, for commenting, for caring.
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What RMACT's Infertility Doctor Asked and Why I Listened
How many shopping days are there until Christmas? Dr. Leondires, RMACT's Medical Director and lead infertility doctor, asked that question the other day. It was in context with how fast time it flying; that the summer is almost half over already. Still it was a shock to think about Christmas, cold weather, and snow, while in sandals and a short-sleeved dress.
I was reading about thankfulness this morning as part of my meditation routine. It was an older book; the term more commonly used these days is gratitude. Reading about thankfulness brought me back to Dr. Leondires' question the other day. In quickly looking up the definitions, thankfulness and gratitude are very closely related. Both are connected to the idea of appreciating a benefit that is recieved.
Love that idea.
Seeing the Benefits of Fertility Treatment
With infertility and being in fertility treatment, benefits recieved are abounding. There are so many moments of things going just right. So many positive indications that conception will occur and that a pregnancy will be healthy and to term. Do you see it that way? Is it possible to shift your gaze and notice those possibilities?
I've decided to start a new count down. Instead of counting down to the holiday season, full of gift giving and receiving, I'm going to count down to Thanksgiving instead.
120 days until Thanksgiving. November 28 this year.
I have a challenge for you. How about waking up every morning and writing down one thing you are grateful for? Starting my day that way is very appealing. Especially when the alternative could be feeling anxious about what needs to get done for the day.
Infertility is a challenge that can be met in many ways. One possibility is fear. Another is grief. Yet another is anxiety. There is that possibility that we meet it with thankfulness. Thankful for all the tiniest and mightiest of things that have allowed us to come to a place where we are considering children in our lives.
I had a hard day yesterday. Just did.
I looked up at the sky, saw the sun, the clouds, the shifting between them. The simple movement in the sky made me smile.
Found a way to be thankful. For a smile.
Thanks Dr. Leondires for the reminder to countdown to gift giving. Whether it's the holiday season or, for me, Thanksgiving. The benefit that I received by hearing about the Christmas season was a deeper appreciation of these:
- summer weather
- open windows
- lighter clothes
- the smell of the earth after it rains
- thunder storms
- the ocean
- cool breezes
- hot sun
- lying on the grass
- skys that stay lit until late in the evening
- dinner on the porch
- breakfast on the front steps
Thankfulness--appreciation of benefits received.
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I give thanks
I find those places within myself
that fill and overflow with light and hope
My heart brings attention to those places that feel dark
filled with dread
I open myself to gratitude
for the moment I have right here
I turn my face towards the blessings that I experience every moment
Waking, breathing, moving, thinking, hearing, seeing
My senses remind me that I am alive
I am grateful to have today to live
I am grateful that you are here with me
I am thinking of you
Holding space for you
Keeping my inner ear open to your pain
and your joy
Remember that you are not alone
I am here for you
We are unrepeatable beings
There has never been a living being precisely like you before, nor will there ever be again
We are here for a purpose and a reason
When we open our hearts, we discover our inner teachers
We find our purpose and we live into it
I give thanks for you
And I remember:
You are beautiful
You are gracious
You are strong
You are smart
You are capable
You are healthy
You are whole and complete
We give thanks together, for this day, to breathe, to live, to love
Happy Thanksgiving to our patients and patients everywhere from the staff of Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut!!!!
Happy Thanksgiving to all of our wonderful patients! Let us all be thankful for all the wonderful things that we have and hopeful for all the wonderful things that our future will bring.
Thanksgiving is a time for family. We are all part of a family with hopes and dreams. As we walk together with friends and family we must be thankful for what we have with a hopeful eye to the future. To all of our patients (extended family) I wish you the best this day and hope you do reach your dreams in the future. Or (touch the sky in the future)
I am thankful for life, family and friends.
I am thankful for family, friends, and magnificent co-workers.
I am very thankful for a wonderful 2010; a seamless wedding, wonderful in-laws, great job, and amazingly supportive friends and family.
I am thankful for the opportunity to be able to slow down a little and share a wonderful meal with busy family and friends.
On Thanksgiving we have to savour the people we are around and celebrating with. Be in the here an now and enjoy the moment of the holiday. We all deserve to have fun on Thanksgiving. Be Mindful, which means to focus and enjoy the little things - smell of the turkey, or the baking of a pie, or your company.
I am thankful for my family and both our grandchildren and especially for our rmact ivf grandson!
I’m grateful for my wonderful father and boyfriend, without them I’d be nowhere in life. I am also grateful for this new job I was blessed with. Amazing co-workers, patients. Couldn’t get any better than this!
I am thankful for working in such a great place with such amazing people to be able to help our patients achieve wonderful families.
I am so thankful for the love, support and encouragement of my family and friends (and, on a lighter note, I am also thankful for Glee (my favorite!) and my IPAD). Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
I am so very grateful for another amazing year of wonderful memories from families, friends and of course our patients at RMACT.
I am very Thankful for 2 girls that started of as co-workers and have become family to me. I am also thankful for having amazing kids and a husband.
I am thankful for friends, family and good health.
I'm thankful for my families, both at home & work. And for our patients getting pregnant and knowing that we have a small part in their success & happiness. Happy Thanksgiving,
I am thankful for the health of my children.
I am thankful for having the opportunity to care for patients that are trying to expand their family.I am thankful for my family.I am thankful that my sister is cancer free after 5 years. I have so much more to be thankful for, the list goes on and on
I’m grateful for: HOUSE on Mondays; GLEE on Tuesdays; HUMAN TARGET on Wednesdays; FRINGE on Thursdays; and Simon works on Fridays…
I am thankful for my wonderful family, friends, and co workers who have supported me and have always been there. I am thankful for hellos and smiles I’m able to share with everyone each day! Happy Thanksgiving!
I am thankful for my family and health.
I am very grateful to work with such a caring, dedicated team of people at RMA. I am also grateful that my own struggle with nfertility paved the way for me to have such a rewarding career. Lastly, I am so grateful to the couples who let me share their fertility journey, and who never cease to amaze me with their strength and perseverance to become parents.
With the many obstacles that may have happened in my life, I am grateful to overcome challenges and succeed by choosing to be happy and joyful for the moment.
This time of year makes me think of all that I am thankful for which of course includes my family & health, but I am also so grateful for the kindness of strangers and generousity of their hearts time and again.
I am thankful for my Patients. As I share my knowledge, I end every visit with a greater understanding and professional growth- from my patient discussions. Also, my mother was a great role model. She showed me how optimizing her health through healthy eating, spiritual growth, and physical fitness helped her face her daily life mental and physical challenges. I am thankful for the opportunity of working with a wonderful RMA team of doctors and staff who support my nutrition / wellness passion and offer excellent, comprehensive reproductive healthcare.
I am thankful for my wonderful family,good health and for my JOB! Happy Thanksgiving to all!!
I am grateful to have such great people to work with!
To all the RMACT patients I am thankful for the opportunity to know so many of you and be a part of you journey. Wishing you peace on this Thanksgiving and success in the year ahead!
I'm thankful for my patients, who teach me something new about hope every day.