Election Day Issues: Fertility Treatment Threatened
Why is personhood relevant for Election Day and fertility treatment issues? Let's start with a few definitions:
1. the quality or condition of being an individual person.
1. the state or fact of being a person.
2. the state or fact of being an individual or having human characteristics and feelings.
1. (Government, Politics & Diplomacy) the condition of being a person who is an individual with inalienable rights, esp under the 14th Amendment of the Constitution of the United States
When I read these definitions, I do not see how embryos qualify for the term “personhood”. The fourteenth amendment states, Section 1:
"All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.”
Born or naturalized. Neither of those terms fit an embryo.
I’ve read some great blogs, containing very pertinent comments regarding what the political and personal ramifications of these proposed amendments will be. Keiko Zoll wrote a piece last week that quoted Sean Tipton, chief advocacy and policy officer for the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM). The article, "Personhood Amendments Would Hurt Families Who Want Children," discussed how these proposed amendments will affect fertility patients and beyond.
Resolve has taken a very active stance on this subject as well with their #No2Personhood Campaign.
I admit to finding rather random points about this as striking, partly because I want to delve a little deeper down into our societal conscience. So here are three thoughts and lots more questions.
Women's Choice About Embryos and Embryo Transfer
1. Women not having the choice about how many embryos are transferred to her uterus. Couples or singles, not having a choice about what do with unused embryos.
Interesting questions that come to mind around all of this. If the embryos are pre-people, aren’t they also pre-children? Wouldn’t that make the disposition of the embryos up to the pre parents? Of course the parents can’t murder or kill a child, which essentially is how this amendment is looking at the issue. So these groups of cells suddenly become autonomous from the genetic parents who have had them created. Exactly who would make the decisions for these embryos? While the amendments would prevent the embryos from being created unless either being placed in the woman’s uterus or donated to another person, it would not address the question of the thousands of embryos presently in cryopreservation.
Another aspect of this is that with IVF, there is a push to super ovulate and produce as many eggs as possible, with the idea of creating a fair amount of embryos. Usually more than the one or two needed. Why?
Because the chances of an egg being retrieved and making it all the way through that process, then the additional steps of being fertilized and then growing to become an embryo that can be transferred are not as high as any of us would like. Depending on many factors, including age, diagnosis and the fertility program that a patient is using, chances of success vary widely. Too widely to be quoted responsibly here.
Cryopreservation Decisions for Frozen Embryos
2. Men and women not having the choice about creating and cryopreserving embryos
Why is this important? How about siblings? How about not having to go through a full IVF cycle again, with its risks, time, and expenses and for women, aging eggs?
I’m going to say a few unpopular things here. Politically incorrect things, even. In the US, there are many embryos frozen. Many. Tens of thousands, many. For many years, decades even.
While a man or woman can accept that these embryos are not babies and not even babies to be, it is often much harder to dispose of the embryos when they have a baby/child from that collection of embryos running around. They see siblings. They see past the embryo being a possibility of life and fast forward to the embryo being a child.
So the men and women who have created these embryos pay to keep them frozen, delaying making a decision about the embryos even long after the decision not to use them has been made.
There are even “abandoned“ embryos, where the men and women who have created them have stopped paying the fees to keep them frozen but the fertility program can’t dispose of them without permission. They don’t answer letter or phone calls and so the embryos cannot be discarded.
How do we address this? How do we help men and women in these situations address these complex issues? Also, could we not pretend that these issues are not present?
Patients frequently see their embryos as babies to be. Of course they do, they see cells dividing. They know fertilization has taken place and that these embryos are growing. They know that these are the babies that they are hoping for. They sometimes even name them. In the guise of being positive, they negate the reality that these embryos are possibilities because they are told to stay hopeful and see the pregnancy test turn positive. But embryos are not babies. They just aren’t. And maybe we don’t further our cause of defeating legislature like this about “personhood” when we encourage people to be so positive that they see their embryos as babies. Something to consider, no?
Fertility Treatment Program Access
3. Does bestowing “personhood” on embryos further or diminish men and women’s abilities to have a child? North Dakota has one reproductive endocrinologists' program in the entire state. ONE. This legislature will all but guarantee that men and women in North Dakota will be unable to find help for the disease of infertility in their own state if that fertility program closes due to this amendment.
Wouldn’t it be great if we all tried to remember that infertility is a disease? Recognized by the American Medical Association as a disease. A disease that this amendment will prevent people in North Dakota and Colorado from getting appropriate, effective treatment for.
This piece of writing is not meant to be comprehensive. This is a huge subject with a lot of inter relating pieces. There are many points of view and many different aspects that are relevant, important and compelling. Please do educate yourself regarding what this amendment is about.
You may live someplace where you know this will never happen to you. You may be right.
And you may not.
This will set precedent and make it easier to pass in other states. That’s what history shows us. So don’t dismiss this conversation just because you don’t live in North Dakota or Colorado. This topic affects all of us.
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The Fertile World - When We Isn't Me
When we doesn’t include me. That may be a very well known phrase.
It isn’t to me.
I heard it for the first time the other day on NPR (National Public Radio, not yet another Infertility acronym). The phrase caught my attention. I wish I could give credit to the speaker but I have no idea who was speaking at the time. If you know, could you please email me at FertileYoga@gmail.com?
Back to the point.
Managing the Fertility Treatment Process
Why do we, I, you, feel so isolated, alone and lonely while managing the fertility treatment process?
Not all of us. Not all the time.
But a lot of us. A lot of the time.
That’s where this phrase comes in.
Me? I felt alone because I was alone. That was the simple answer. I didn’t know many other people, women, who were going through fertility treatment when I was. Thank goodness for my dear friend, Pamela Madsen, who eventually led me to Resolve and then to The American Fertility Association.
If it weren’t for Pamela, Resolve and The AFA, I would have been sunk.
Because we didn’t apply to me.
We were people who didn’t know they were having a problem having children.
We were having morning sickness and swollen ankles.
We were pregnant friends.
We were mommy and me programs.
We were happily married couples conceiving in the privacy in their own bedrooms.
We were the “normal” procession of dating, engagement, wedding, baby shower, baby. (How grateful are all of us for the new normal?)
We weren’t me.
No wonder I felt lonely. No wonder at all.
I found we in groups with Resolve and The AFA. That was my we. That was where I fit in, whether it was the we I really wanted to be part of or not, it was the we that I felt a part of. A place where we fit me.
Maybe you too don’t fit with we right now. Not the we that you are used to, anyway. There are other we’s. That’s what I found out.
Why not try Ladies Night In at RMACT? Carrie Van Steen and I would love to meet you. We have a place where you may fit right in.
The we you are looking for.
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Fertility Specialist Dr. Richlin Attends Infertility Advocacy Day
It’s another week that is starting with RESOLVE. Two weeks ago it was about National Infertility Awareness Week. This week it’s all about advocacy. Two sides of the same coin, really, right? Very exciting news for this year, though. For the first time, Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT) has one of our fertility specialists, Surgical Director, Spencer Richlin, MD, going down to Washington to take part in Infertility Advocacy Day on May 7, 2014. More about that as the week progresses and Dr. Richlin takes time away from his practice to go stand up for the patients that he works so closely with, day in and day out.
The question of how awareness and advocacy interrelate remains, and here’s how it walks hand in hand, at least in my mind.
Awareness is followed by advocacy, rightly so, I think. We bring awareness for a number of reasons. So that we can get support; emotional, medical, financial and more. Insurance coverage is spotty when it comes to the disease of infertility. The American Medical Association (AMA) has classified infertility as a disease. While that may feel very uncomfortable to those of us struggling to conceive, while it may not sound or feel positive, the definition actually gives us a lot of leverage when it comes to insurance coverage.
Infertility, perhaps more rightly termed, sub fertility, is a disease of the reproductive system. We as patients don’t like hearing this. In fact, in Fertile Yoga, I often do guided meditation and visualizations about healthy tissue, organs, body and mind. Still, when we are not getting pregnant, that inability is an indication that some part of the reproductive process is not operating properly.
This does not negate the guided meditation, visualization and the helpfulness of staying positive. Not at all. Those practices, including Fertile Yoga, support your efforts to become pregnant and offer you an opportunity to live your life in a more loving way while you are still trying to conceive.
The example that I like to use is this; if you have two blocked tubes or the male partner has no sperm, all of the guided meditation in the world will not achieve a pregnancy. It simply won’t. It will still provide ease of mind, relaxation, softer thoughts and feelings. As a mind/body practitioner and student for many years, I would still highly recommend it for the previously mentioned reasons. If you’re trying to become pregnant with either of those problems though, you need medical treatment. If you are not ovulating properly, you need medical treatment. If you are not getting your period regularly, you need medical treatment. And the list goes on. Here’s a truth, an absolute and definite truth; infertility is a medical disease and it oftentimes requires medical treatment.
Let me say that again.
Infertility is a medical disease that often requires medical treatment.
And yet, over and over again, we are not covered by our medical insurance. Our practice, RMACT, has an Opportunity Plan, specifically designed for those men and women who have no coverage to help contain costs. Why is this even necessary? Given that infertility is a medical condition, why isn’t it covered by all medical insurance plans?
We are going to explore these questions and more this week. Meanwhile, I look forward to hearing from Dr. Richlin about his experience in Washington, D.C. on Wednesday, May 7, 2014, at Infertility Advocacy Day.
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RESOLVE Advocacy Day Details
What is Advocacy Day?
Advocacy Day is a RESOLVE event where women and men living with infertility and the professionals that serve them come together in Washington, D.C. to talk to Members of Congress about the issues important to our community. RESOLVE will make your appointments for you and provide you with the training and information you need for this day of empowerment. Advocacy Day is a great opportunity to meet RESOLVE Board, volunteers, and staff as well as leaders in the infertility community who are making a difference.
What are “our issues”?
We will be on Capitol Hill talking about the scope of infertility in this country and the physical, emotional, and financial impact of this disease. We will be advocating for legislation that will allow more people to afford IVF treatments, legislation that will allow wounded vets to seek IVF treatment to build their family, and advocating for the Adoption Tax Credit to remain permanent.
Can this day really make a difference?
Yes! Every year we make personal connections with Members of Congress and their staff who are in a position to make a positive difference in the lives of people living with infertility. If we are not in front of Congress every year and providing updates and information year-round, then our issues will not get the attention they deserve. We need to continue to make our voices heard!
When will our bills get passed?
While we do not have an exact date, we do know that we won’t stop until these bills are passed! Did you know it took 9 years to get the Family and Medical Leave Act passed? A strong and consistent voice on Capitol Hill will make a difference on whether or not our government addresses the needs of the infertility community.
How do I get to meet with my Members of Congress?
RESOLVE will book and confirm all of your appointments with your Members of Congress. We will hold a training session prior to Advocacy Day and provide additional training the morning of May 7th. We will provide you with everything you need to feel prepared for your meetings.
How to be part of RESOLVE’s Advocacy Day
1. Join us in Washington, D.C. on Wednesday, May 7th
. Register on our website.
2. Share the importance of Advocacy Day with your patients or customers.
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“Advocacy Day is a RESOLVE event where women and men living with infertility come together in Washington, D.C. to talk to Members of Congress about our important issues. RESOLVE holds this annual event so you have chance to make your voice heard. They will make your appointments for you and provide you with the training and information you need for this day of empowerment. Advocacy Day is a great opportunity to meet RESOLVE leaders and others from the infertility community who want to make a difference. Visit www.resolve.org/advocacyday for details. Advocacy Day is Wednesday, May 7, 2014.”
“Meet us at RESOLVE’s Advocacy Day on Wednesday, May 7th! RMACT's Dr. Spencer Richlin will be travelling to Washington, D.C. to participate in RESOLVE’s Advocacy Day. He is looking forward to meeting RESOLVE advocates from all over the country and working together to ask Congress to provide our community with financial relief for family building options. Visit www.resolve.org/advocacyday for details.”
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RMACT Joins RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association® to Observe National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW)
Reproductive Medicine Associates of Connecticut (RMACT) and RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association (NIAW) will recognize the twenty-fifth Anniversary of National Infertility Awareness Week®, April 20 through April 26, joining millions of women and men fighting the disease of infertility, healthcare professionals, psychologists, and other thought leaders to promote greater awareness about infertility.
RESOLVE works to improve the lives of women and men living with infertility. One in eight U.S. couples of childbearing age is diagnosed with infertility. RESOLVE addresses this public health issue by providing community to these women and men, connecting them with others who can help, empowering them to find resolution and giving voice to their demands for access to all family building options.
Creating Awareness About Infertility
"Education and awareness are our most powerful tools against infertility," says Dr. Spencer Richlin, an RMACT reproductive endocrinologist who will be participating in RESOLVE's Advocacy Day on May 7, 2014 in Washington, DC. "Through NIAW and Advocacy Day, we are creating awareness about infertility among Congress and anyone who plans to have a family. After all, even patients who are otherwise healthy can struggle with infertility."
Throughout the year, RMACT helps educate patients about healthy pregnancies and their fertility through individual medical care, seminars, workshops and written materials. During NIAW, RMACT is hosting several free fertility events in Connecticut.
Connecticut Fertility Events
- Fertility Yoga, 5:45 – 7:00 p.m., Trumbull Office (115 Technology Drive, Suite C200)
- Ladies Night In, 6:45 – 8:00 p.m., Trumbull Office (115 Technology Drive, Suite C200)
- Fertile Yoga, 5:45 – 7:00 p.m., Norwalk Office (20 Glover Avenue)
- Prenatal Yoga, 7:15 – 8:15 p.m., Norwalk Office (20 Glover Avenue)
- Fertile Yoga, 6:00 – 7:15 p.m., YogaSpace in Brookfield (777 Federal Road)
- Fertile Meal Planning, 2:00 – 3:30 p.m., Norwalk Office (20 Glover Avenue)
"The theme of National Infertility Awareness Week® is 'Resolve to know more,' and RESOLVE is delighted to work with practices and organizations across the country to call attention to the disease of infertility," said Barbara Collura, RESOLVE's President/CEO. "This is a wonderful week when our community comes together to rally around the cause of infertility."
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A Week of Awareness Around Trying to Conceive: NIAW
This week, for the twenty-fourth year, NIAW springs to life.
NIAW stands for National Infertility Awareness Week, started by RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association in 1989.
It’s really not a celebration. We don’t celebrate infertility. We take this week to bring awareness about the medical, emotional and financial challenges of infertility. When NIAW started twenty-four years ago, raising awareness was much more of a problem than it is now.
Now we can ask folks to share on Facebook, talk on Internet chat rooms, write on blogs (like this one), tweet, post on Pintrest and more. Twenty-four years ago, it was much more grass roots. Getting the information in newsletters and having doctors’ offices put it in the waiting rooms. Trying to get celebrities to talk about it and hope for media coverage. Put up posters in libraries.
How to Bring Awareness to Infertility Challenges
What can you do this week to bring awareness to infertility challenges? Here are some suggestions to bring awareness in a public way:
- Talk about it with a friend, family member or colleague that you have not shared with before. It’s a risk, I know. You may find out that you have opened the door to someone who is having similar problems.
- Write something about your own experience and share it where you feel comfortable or go a step further and share it where you’ve previously felt uncomfortable.
- Offer your help to RESOLVE, volunteer!
- Pledge to join in on Advocacy Day, May 8th, in Washington, D.C. Read more about Advocacy Day on PathtoFertility blog.
- Find a peer support group and make the commitment to go to the next meeting. Your presence can offer comfort and support to someone else going through similar troubles.
For many of us, infertility is something that is private. Bringing awareness to an issue that we are not willing to discuss is difficult. If you are one of the people out there who are not sharing their infertility struggles with friends and family, you are not alone. Consider more private ways to bring awareness. Is there a way that you can raise your own awareness? Here are a couple of ideas:
- Read some information on reputable websites so that you are as informed as possible. Some suggestions: ASRM (American Society for Reproductive Medicine), SART (Society for Assisted Reproductive Technologies), CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).
- Add a form of meditation to your life. It may mean sitting quietly or it could be a walk.
- Notice how infertility is affecting you. How it’s affecting your relationships. How it’s affecting your job.
- Give yourself a break. Put aside some time each day where you focus on something other than infertility.
- Consider finding a mental health professional (therapeutic counselor). Talk about how you’re feeling in a private place where you feel safe and comfortable.
Infertility is a disease of the reproductive system, recognized by the American Medical Association (AMA) as such.
Goals for National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW)
Here are the goals that RESOLVE has put forth this year for National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW):
RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association founded this movement and continues to work with the professional family building community, corporate partners, and the media to:
- ensure that people trying to conceive know the guidelines for seeing a specialist when they are trying to conceive.
- enhance public understanding that infertility is a disease that needs and deserves attention.
- educate legislators about the disease of infertility and how it impacts people in their state.
In 2010 National Infertility Awareness Week became a federally recognized health observance by the Department of Health and Human Services.
Thank you to everyone who finds the courage to bring awareness to infertility this week. Whether it is something you do publically or privately, it helps.
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RESOLVE: National Infertility Awareness Week
Next week is NIAW. National Infertility Awareness Week.
Started by RESOLVE: The National Infertility Awareness Association. RESOLVE, as an organization, began in 1974, with Barbara Eck Menning. Barbara founded RESOLVE, at least in part, as a response to her own infertility and her awareness that men and women experiencing this disease needed three things. Education, support and advocacy.
And that’s what RESOLVE has done for almost 40 years.
I started volunteering with RESOLVE shortly after the organization began NIAW. I remember participating in some of the earliest versions of NIAW as a director of RESOLVE of NYC. I remember the excitement that I felt, the awe, of shining the light on a problem that so severely affected me. The understanding that it might impact someone else facing similar challenges and uncertainty.
To echo RESOLVE’s words. I am. I want. I support.
I am. I want. I support.
I am someone who experienced the daily stress and medical, emotional and spiritual issues of infertility.
I want all people to be able to have the ability to understand infertility, have access to medical help, know where to turn for emotional support and know that infertility is a disease and should be recognized and treated as such.
I support RESOLVE and men and women experiencing infertility by continuing to write about important, pertinent issues, by working with RMACT and helping bring peer support groups (Ladies Night In), teaching Fertile Yoga and continuing the dialogue about this disease which impacts so many men and women.
NIAW Events: Stamford Hospital's Fairfield County Women's Expo
A special call out for some of the events that have been created for NIAW. RMACT will be taking part at Stamford Hospital's Fairfield County Women’s Expo, for the fourth year in a row, making sure that infertility is part of the conversation. Although the Expo has a ten dollar cost, in honor of NIAW, RMACT has free tickets available. Please call our 800.865.5431 number and ask for them. They are in our Norwalk, Danbury, Stamford and Trumbull offices.
SHOW DATES & HOURS:
Saturday, April 27, 2013, 11 - 5 and Sunday, April 28, 2013, 11 - 5
Stamford Plaza Hotel: 2701 Summer Street, Stamford, CT
Admission price is $10.00, kids 12 and under are free. FREE indoor parking.
Free Teleseminar: Seven Days to an Easier Way
A woman that I am honored to call friend, Kristen Magnacca, will be holding a Nationwide - Free Teleseminar: 7 Days to an Easier Way - 12:00PM ET on April 22nd. Details:
Please join our FREE NIAW noontime Teleseminar on April 22: Seven Days to an Easier Way. Learn how to live a fully fertile life, as well as new ways to love yourself while trying to create your family. Every participant receives a FREE copy of my CD, Everyday Certainty. More info at the link and register at firstname.lastname@example.org. Hope to "see" you there!
Center Families Presents: LGBT Family Building Expo
Please join Dr. Leondires and the Gay Parents To Be team at the LGBT Family Building Expo hosted by Center Families in New York City. This is an excellent opportunity to learn about all aspects of family building for gay and lesbian individuals/couples interested in having a baby.
- Panel discussions on all aspects of family building, including medical, legal, psychological and financial
- Personal stories from parents
- “The Doctor Is In” – free medical consultation (by appointment only)
- Lunchtime sessions and “Cocktails With Content” with celebrity guests
DATE & HOURS:
Saturday, April 27, 2013 ~ 11am – 8pm
208 W. 13th Street, New York, NY
Cost: $35.00 for general public; FREE for Center members
Contact Center Families at 212.620.7310 or email@example.com.
Next week, at PathtoFertility, all blogs will be devoted to NIAW.
Thanks for joining the conversation.
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Resolve - The National Infertiltiy Association's Advocacy Day
I'm really excited to share information here from Resolve - The National Infertility Association. While each of us has to find our own path when it comes to infertility, there is much that we have in common. One thing that we have in common is that we do not need to travel that path alone. There is help. Resolve helps. And when we put our voices together, we help one another, whether we have ever met personally or not.
If insurance coverage and general understanding of infertility as a medical problem is something that concerns you, please consider how you can help on May 8. If you are able to go, your presence will be deeply appreciated. If you are able to support this effort in another way, that will be most welcome as well.
There are very few things that I have attended or supported in my life that I have felt more proud of then the events like this one in the past that I have gone to. I have seen first hand, through state mandates for infertility coverage to changing language in bills, what using our voices collectively can do.
Me? I'm going to do my best to get there this year. Anyone want to join me? ~ Lisa
It's time for Members of Congress to understand the needs of the infertility community.
Advocacy Day is a RESOLVE event where women and men living with infertility come together in Washington, D.C. to talk to Members of Congress about issues important to our community. RESOLVE holds this annual event so you have a chance to make your voice heard. We will make your appointments for you and provide you with the training and information you need for this day of empowerment. Advocacy Day is a great opportunity to meet RESOLVE leaders and others from the infertility community who want to make a difference.
RESOLVE's Advocacy Day
Wednesday, May 8, 2013, Washington, D.C.
Register today for this very special event!
Infertility Conference TakeAways
I refuse to even mention the weather. Or the snow. So onto another topic for today.
It felt like old times last Saturday at an infertility conference. With new faces, friends from the past, familiar topics and more information than could be reasonably digested in one day. It felt like old times, updated tremendously.
It could only be a RESOLVE conference. RESOLVE New England, to be exact.
Amazing how some things never change. I remember quite well planning conferences like the one I attended on Saturday. The scope of topics, with dedicated tracks; fertility treatment, donor options and adoption. The amount of talented, informed speakers, designing the workshops, creating a schedule of fewest conflicts possible, coordinating it all.
And RESOLVE NE made it look easy. They did a fabulous job.
It takes a dedicated crew to pull it off. Congratulations to RESOLVE of NE--their Executive Director Erin Lasker (who maintained a gentle but strong presence that day; she remained calm and levelheaded in the midst of all the commotion of a complicated and successful conference!), Director of Marketing and Education Naomi Goldman, Director of Operations Beth Smith and Director of Communications and Social Media Keiko Zoll; their board members, including President Amy Demma, Past President Beth Panella, Secretary Barbara Luciano and Treasurer Pam Odeen-Lodato, as well as Jennifer Burbridge, Elena Clamen, Amy Cook, Terri Davidson, Betsy Hochberg, Ramani Varasni; and Honorary Members Alma Berson, Bonny Gilbert and Barbara Wells. Volunteers were friendly, helpful, compassionate and informed. I didn't get lost once. And believe me, that's saying something when there are nine rooms with nine choices of topics and speakers.
Coping with Infertility Stress
Listening to Alice Domar, PhD, and having it confirmed, once again, just how stressful it is to deal with infertility. That it's as stressful as cancer. That infertility, in fact, covers all the bases of the most stresstful situations. Good to hear as well, that there are so many ways to make to help support patients. I love that Dr. Domar has research behind her ways of helping patients feel better. Ways that are proven effective. I also love that RMACT is doing so many of the things that we know support fertility patients. Acupuncture, massage, therapeutic counseling, Fertile Yoga, educational seminars, peer support groups and more. Dr. Domar discussed that yes, stress can also add to infertility, with some research behind it. Overwhelmingly though, the data shows how infertility causes stress and becomes a vicious cycle.
There was so much the other day, it's hard to recount it all.
Resolve NE 2012 Annual Conference
Some Resolve NE 2012 Annual Conference stand-outs:
- Dr. Camille Hammond's heartfelt talk about her own personal story and the building of a non-profit to help men and women with infertility afford treatment;
- An award accepted by State Senator Matthew Houde (D) of New Hampshire for ensuring that in New Hampshire homocide laws would not be enacted, threatening the creation of embryos. Yes, you actually read that correctly. Homocide laws were being considered that would encompass the creation and disposition of embryos;
- Panel of open, honest women sharing their personal stories about adoption and donor egg. Amazing to hear their journey to create their families. The perseverance and commitment from each of these families to create their families and the feeling that the road that they took brought them exactly the children that were intended for their families;
- Kristin Magnacca and Dr. Rob Kiltz spoke directly to patient support and how to make the time spent at a fertility practice an experience that feels more humane, more personal;
- The scientific, IVF informational workshops.
It was my honor and privilege to teach Fertile Yoga at the end of the day to a group of tired, overstimulated women. It was so gratifying to see their blissed out yoga faces at the end of the session.
Thank you RESOLVE of New England, for putting on such a stellar day. You should be very proud of yourselves. I know I am.
Fertile Yoga Outcomes: Talk of Rooting Down
It's all I've been talking about in Fertile Yoga lately.
Foundations. Four corners of the feet. Connection to the earth, through rooting down.
Rooting down, to rise up.
Foundation. It's what gives us the ability to rise up.
Looking Back At My Infertility Journey
My infertility journey began many years ago with Resolve. It wasn't about fertility. It was about understanding infertility.
Resolve saved my sanity and my marriage and many of my friendships.
Does that sound grandiose? Exaggerated, maybe?
I was 26 years old and wasn't getting pregnant. Most of my friends weren't even married, much less trying to have babies. It's not an exaggeration to say that Resolve saved my sanity. There was no internet then. No cell phones. Yes, it was that long ago. No internet. No chat rooms, no message boards. So, no, I'm not exaggerating when I say that Resolve saved my marriage and many friendships.
Oddly enough, it was through voluteering for Resolve that I found help. It was through answering the phone lines and stuffing envelopes and directing people at the infertility conferences.
My comfort was in sharing the wisdom that I had found about how to proceed through the life crisis that is infertility. The total irony was that I got so much more than I gave. The more that I gave, the more that I received.
I found hope and comfort. I found friends that understood what I was going through. I found a place that gave me a foundation from which to explore all my options.
Resolve was my foundation with infertility. It was the first place that I went that made me feel at home.
Circling Around to Resolve's 2012 Night of Hope
And here I am, circling around. Going tonight to Resolve's 2012 Night of Hope. I remember running their gala's with them. Working with them on conferences and suppport groups and legislation.
It is my honor and privilage to go this evening. Perhaps consider whether you would like to make a donation to this organization that has done so much for supporting us with our fertility journey. Without Resolve, many of us would not have the state mandates that are in place today. And so much more.
Irony rears it's head again. Tomorrow, Ladies Night In, peer support group -- Inspired by Resolve. Carrie Van Steen and I will be with you in Danbury, tomorrow night, October 3, 2012, from 6-7:30 p.m.
Won't you join us? Come to get comfort, support, help, even help finding your sense of humor. And you may find that as you receive these things, you are helping the woman next to you as well.
We're in this together. And I wouldn't have it any other way.