Fertility Appears in Many Different Opportunities

In Many Different Opportunities Will You Find Fertility

 

Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words.

 

 

Grow something. Nurture it. Find what is needed to nourish and sustain it.

 

 

Find your own fertility. Beyond becoming pregnant. 

 

 

Grow yourself. 

 

 

                            

 

 

 

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Fertile Father's Day Dreams From the Hearts of Their Women

Thank you to the women from Ladies Night In and Carrie Van Steen for giving us these beautiful, heartfelt thoughts about their partners and husbands.

My husband would be a great teacher for our child
funny
charismatic
and wise

No matter what our child likes or which profession they choose
I know they'll be a good person with a
Daddy
like you

Thinking of you today
I look forward to seeing you become a daddy very soon
You will be absolutely amazing

When I look at you
my heart swells with gratitude and pride,
knowing you will make a wonderful dad
someday soon!
I dream of the day when
you can prove to the world what a fantastic father that
I know you will be to our future angel

My love for you is so strong

I know with you is where I belong

I can't wait for the day we can be more than two

but until that day comes, being there for each other is

all we need to do.

Can You Share Your Infertility and Find Support?

  Why not tell your friends that you are struggling with infertility? Why not share the pain and difficulties that you are experiencing? Who better than to offer support and love than our friends and families?

Here are a few reasons I hear a lot:

• 1. Loss of privacy; too many questions
• 2. Fear of pity
• 3. The other person's inability to understand how we feel
• 4. That they will share the information with others that we don't choose to
• 5. Too private and intimate a subject to discuss
• 6. Shame and embarrassment over our struggle
• 7. Fear we will lose control emotionally in the conversation
• 8. Fear that we will have to comfort the other person

Notice how often fear comes up?  None of us want to lead our lives driven by fear, yet we don't share with our friends and family mainly for that reason. One question to consider is what we give up by allowing the fear to keep us quiet with our friends and family. Here is the list that I came up with a long time ago, that allowed me to realize that the gains, for me, from facing my fears far outweighed the losses. A short list, a simple list, but a group of ideas that can mean all the difference between feeling like you are going through life alone or with love.

• 1. Support
• 2. Comfort
• 3. Understanding

Here's a poem that I found that describes well how I felt in the midst of infertility and the idea of sharing my pain with those I love:

MY INFERTILE LIFE

Don't look at me with pity

Don't judge me with your eyes

Don't listen to the others

For they may tell you lies

Don't think I am not caring

Or that I have no needs

Don't think I'm not a lover

Or never done good deeds

Don't see me with no children

And think it's my desire

Don't think a new born baby

Won't set my heart on fire

Just give me understanding

And let me stand and cry

And know my desperation

As my infertile life goes by

Author Unknown

And yes, it's a bit depressing. But then so is infertility. If you are experiencing infertility, if you are in the middle of it, then you understand the poem.

If there is no one that you are sharing your pain with, consider telling someone you love, someone you trust, someone who will not judge you, but will listen with an open heart. I know it's scary and you may even tell someone and feel afterwards that it was a mistake, that they don't understand, that it doesn't help. Trust someone else, try again. Don't be alone in this struggle.  Counter your loneliness with love.