Medical Monday - Infertility and Birth Control
Medical Monday comes around again on PathtoFertiilty. It doesn’t just sound the end of the weekend; it’s also a recommitment to understanding some of the medical issues that infertility presents.
Because of Ladies Night In, Fertile Yoga and responses to this blog, I hear the conversations that are current within the fertility community. Not just what we think you’re all talking and wondering about but what you are actually talking and wondering about.
Birth control is coming up a lot lately. Some of the conversation is really simple. “I want my money back.” That is pretty popular. “I want to go back in time and know that I didn’t have to worry about becoming pregnant.” That one is pretty popular too. “I wish I had never taken anything because maybe I could have gotten pregnant then and even if it wasn’t perfect timing, I would be a parent.” That one hurts the most, I think. Regrets generally are wistful wishes about recreating the past to have happened in a different way. They tend to really sting.
Then you come to a fertility program. You have your consultation with a fertility specialist (please make it a board certified reproductive endocrinologist if you truly want a “fertility specialist”) and before you start fertility treatment, you need to go on birth control.
A few reactions here.
First. “Are you kidding me?”
Second. “If I needed birth control, would I be here?”
Third. “I don’t want to do any further damage to my reproductive process and I’m worried that birth control will send me into a further decline.”
Do you see yourself in any of those comments? Is there one I missed? More than one? (Please do tell me in a comment to this blog if there’s a reaction that you had to going on birth control pills that I missed. Remember that your comments to the blog come directly to me. Your comments do not post automatically and will be kept private unless you indicate that you want them made public.)
Reproductive Endocrinologists on Infertility and the Pill
Next Monday, I will have one of our five board certified reproductive endocrinologists share with us the medical pieces of why birth control pills are used. They are the experts at explaining why this is an accepted practice and how they avoid causing any harm.
You probably all ready know the basics. It’s to halt your reproductive cycle so that it can be managed more efficiently and effectively for a fertility treatment cycle. It’s so that we know where we’re starting from.
Basically, it’s so that we have a day one from which to create the rest of your cycle. We know where your hormone levels are, your endometrial lining and your follicular activity. There are far less unwanted surprises when birth control is used and far less fertility treatment cycles cancelled as well.
Whatever your fear or worry is about using birth control pills, we’d like to address it here. Whichever RMACT fertility specialist (Drs. Mark Leondires, Spencer Richlin, Joshua Hurwitz, Cynthia Murdock or Shaun Williams) shares their thoughts with you on this next week, we can include your concerns if you share them with us. So please let us know. And if for some reason you would prefer to send your comments to a different secure email, please feel free to do so: FertileYoga@gmail.com
We know it seems counter intuitive to use birth control when all you’re hoping for is a baby. Let’s take the conversation one step at a time so that it makes complete sense to you.
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It appears that I am welcoming in the new year by allowing all the rants inside to come out.
My rant yesterday got many people worried. Had infertility finally caused me to lose my mind?
I love coming here to write because you understand.
The answer is YES!
Infertility has caused me to lose my mind. Ever feel like you were seeing it everywhere?
I read an article recently that celebrated the 50th birthday of the pill. Margaret Sanger’s grandson and a whole bunch of others celebrated what is often considered the greatest breakthrough of the 20th century in high fashion. Perhaps my favorite quote is: “Today, we operate on a simple premise that every little girl should be able to grow up to be anything she wants, and she can only do so if she has the ability to chart her own reproductive destiny.”
And that’s ultimately what people don’t understand. That infertility takes away choice, removes our “ability to chart her own reproductive destiny.” That choosing or not choosing to have babies is not only about not choosing to have babies. In other words, perhaps in simpler words, choice is also about saying yes to becoming a parent.
And, yes, when that choice is not available, I start ranting.
What makes you want to rant about infertility?