Last night I met, ate, drank and spoke with a group of infertility professionals
. All types, from all walks of life, from all over the new england area. Fertility consultants, adoption attorneys, reproductive endocrinologists, acupuncturists, reproductive law attorneys, writers, infertility program administrators and more.
Most of us had one thing in common. Infertility. Well, duh, when you look at what each of us do for a living, right? Well, not exactly. What most of us infertility professionals had in common was infertility. As in, personally. Yes, we had that in common professionally and it's why we were together, talking and sharing.
Turns out though, that for most of us, what we had in common was infertility personally. As soon as conversations touched upon the personal, there was some mention of having used this doctor or that, this infertility program or that, or this attorney or that one. Some of us shared the details of our own infertility, the exact story and outcome. Many conversations dissolved before that depth of personal information sharing. And yet, our personal infertility was an integral part of each conversation.
We were not just infertility professionals. We were all walking, breathing infertility stories. For most of us, the professional part had come after the personal part. Our personal experience had fueled the desire to work in the field of infertility.
It felt really good to see, hear and feel all the passion in the group and in the individuals themselves. I know how often I speak to someone whose job is their job. They like it well enough, or they don't, but often it's what they do for a living and it's only when you speak about their personal life, that their passion shows up.
With this group, their passion is their job. Really. Makes me feel better, especially when we read and hear so much about infertility now being an industry or business. Ok, if that has to be true, then let it be populated with these "professionals" whose personal lives have been so profoundly touched by infertility. Let it be supported by these professionals whose passion is rekindled every day by the children living in their hearts, and in their homes.
Meeting them last night was wonderful professionally; it was exciting to hear about what's going on in the field of infertility. Personally, it felt similar to a support group. Sharing with a group of people who all understood what it was like to struggle to create their family, whose children existed because of tremendous effort and who still appreciate it every day of their lives. That feeling made me feel even better about the peer support groups I facilitate, reminded me of how the feeling of community is so healing.
Cleared up a few questions for me as well. It turns out I am not the only one who wonders, still, 18 years later, what life would have been like without infertility. And it turns out that I am also not alone in feeling the passion that I did all those years again about helping others on their journey.
Infertility professionals with their personal stories, how good to meet and talk with them.