Thanksgiving thoughts, during the days before the holiday.
Preparations are in full swing. Travel arrangements are also being commenced or coordinated, whether driving, flying or picking people up.
Cooking or meal planning has started and shopping for ingredients is obvious when you walk into any grocery store.
Expectations are high. We are to be thankful, grateful, happy, content.
Uh, huh. Except for when we're not.
Infertility and Gratitude
Today's blog is about infertility and gratitude and thanksgiving.
So many of us experiencing infertility do feel gratitude about so many things. I know this because I get to speak to so many of you.
Here's what I've heard lately, from you, about gratitude and thanksgiving, in your voices:
- "I'm grateful for the strength and foundation of my marriage"
- "I'm grateful for the support and help my friends have given me"
- "Every single day, I find things that bring me joy"
- "I'm so thankful for my job, which is so fulfilling"
- "The support that I feel from my family holds me up"
- "How interesting to see where support comes from, unexpected people who understand what I'm going through"
- "I love noticing the things that make other people smile"
- "Music brings me joy, even on the worst days"
- "Knowing that my husband is there for me, means everything"
- "I know that a child will enter my life, one way or another"
- "My faith sustains me"
- "I'm so grateful for the medical care and attention that I get from my doctors and medical staff"
- "Infertility has deepened many relationships for me, including the one with myself. Who knew I had the strength to go through fertility treatment, with shots, and medication and more?
Just little tidbits that I have gotten from all of you. You may recognize your words or your sentiments. Or you may be inspired by someone else's words and thoughts.
Thanksgiving is a time of hope and expectation.
That can be a lot tougher to create than a Thanksgiving dinner.
Would you please tell me what you're grateful for this Thanksgiving?
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Struggling with Infertility
A common scenario when we are struggling with infertility is that we feel alone; we feel that no one truly understands the magnitude of what we are going through. We withdraw from friends and family because their concern, although well meaning, is frequently hurtful or intrusive. Even when our friends and family say precisely the right thing, at the right time and drop the subject the moment that you ask them to, we still experience pain. It makes holidays, get togethers, even simple conversations a strain where once it was easy and comfortable.
Peer Support Group Privileges
I feel honored to help facilitate a peer support group where we laugh, cry, help, support and educate one another. I’m very thankful and grateful for this group of women who show up, lay it on the line and tell it like it is. Relationships are formed and valuable bonds are made in these groups. Why can we tell strangers things that we cringe about sharing with those who love us?
Simple, really. We understand. We get it. Who else really does get what it’s like to go to friends for an evening and have to disappear into the bathroom? Together, I mean, your partner and yourself. LOL. Who else understands that it makes you want to laugh and cry at the same time? Who else understands that there’s a part of you that hopes your friends think that you are having hot sex in the bathroom, not getting a shot in your derriere? Who else understands that your vacation is being postponed because you’re in the middle of a cycle? Who else understands what it’s like to get one more birth announcement, one more whispered “I’m pregnant”? Who else understands our younger sisters conceiving and having children and our hearts full for them and breaking for ourselves?
Cultivating Gratitude: Make Your Own List
So for those of us who get it, here’s my list of things that infertility makes me grateful for, in case feeling grateful feels like a really big stretch, or even impossible:
- Ovulating each month
- Front desk person at your fertility clinic smiling at you
- Getting your period regularly
- Have insurance coverage for fertility treatment
- Have veins that cooperate in getting blood drawn
- Struggling with PCOS and finding ways to minimize the impact
- Getting a positive pregnancy test
- Able to face the emotional roller coaster that is infertility treatment
- Fertile Yoga
- Are healthy and young enough to be able to consider fertility treatment
- Producing enough follicles to go through In Vitro Fertilization
- Able to do IUI’s (Intra uterine inseminations) with a high probability of success
- Have the financial resources to continue treatment even without insurance coverage
- Professional therapists who have the ability to make us see things differently, espcially our feelings
- Nurses who are approachable and compassionate
- A fertility program where you are treated as a whole person and not a walking diagnosis
- Getting your period after three or four months
- Ultrasound showing a heartbeat
- A painless transfer
- A nutritionist that is not judgemental, but really really helpful
- A retrieval that goes smoothly and easily
- Live in a day and age where third party reproductive technology is available
- Can compare one fertility specialist (board certified reproductive endocrinologist) to another and pick one who is the best fit
- Having access to complementary programs that enhance your chances of conception
- Not strangling your friend/family member/co-worker/boss/partner/waitress who asks yet again when you are going to have a baby
- Live in a state where it’s mandated that infertility is covered by insurance
- Passion tea
- Able to turn to a partner for help and support
- Ultrasound showing a sac
- Feeling hope that this time the cycle will work and there will be a baby at the end of the rainbow
What goes on your list? Share your ideas in the comments and we'll build a new list together. I’m grateful to you, my community, my group who gets it--for reading, for commenting, for caring.
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Bald Eagles, Fragile Eggs and Infertility
I remember vividly one weekend I spent with family a few years ago. Eating, talking, squabbling interspersed with racing outside, quietly, to gaze at bald eagles. There were three of them, two immature, and one with a gleaming white feathered head. I have never seen a bald eagle outside of captivity, although when in areas where they are reported to be, I have looked and hoped.
Photo: LimarieC, Flickr Creative Commons
Here are some bald eagle facts: They have a wing span of up to seven feet. They are almost four feet tall. Their talons and beaks are intense and rather scary to look at. When they perch in a tree and look at you, it's intimidating, especially knowing that they can see the pores in your skin, their eyesight is that good. They don't look like anything else. If you see a bird that big, with a white head, it's the only bird that it can be. The noises of other birds change when they are around. First it gets very quiet, and then it gets very strident. It's not the usual bird chatter that you hear; there truly is a sense of urgency in it.
I think the single most fascinating fact that I learned this weekend was how much the birds weigh. We had a bird expert among us who knew but before he told us, we all guessed. The highest guess was forty-five pounds. It turns out that a full grown eagle, with a seven foot wing span, sitting almost four feet tall weighs about eight to fourteen pounds. Probably some of you knew that even a bird that large would weight very little, given the whole flying thing -- hollow bones, lots of feathers and all. I was astounded that a bird so majestic, so powerful, so intimidating would weigh so little. When we had the rare pleasure of seeing one of the younger birds actually snatch a fish out of the water and then have the other young bird grab it away, you could feel the speed, power, determination and utter strength of this bird.
Understanding Infertility and the Power of Possibility
So of course it made me think about you. About understanding infertility. About power, strength and possibility in something that weighs so little. About our eggs, our embryos, our hopes. And for those of us who "only" have one or two follicles or "only" retrieve one or two eggs, or "only" have one or two embryos fertilize, or "only" have one or two embryos that mature to day five.
While I was thinking about this I recalled the conversation during the afternoon of how our bald eagle population went into a serious, dangerous decline for a long time, partly due to the use of DDT which made their eggs so fragile that babies were much less frequently hatched. When the numbers of eagles were declining, each one was important to the continuation of the species. That is still true. They had help, our help, we banned DDT, we passed laws that made it illegal to disturb their nesting area. We helped.
Doesn't each of us deserve the same help?
I came home and looked up some information about bald eagles and found out that they are one of the few species who have struggled and succeeded in being upgraded from the endangered to the threatened list. There are an estimated 70,000 bald eagles in the world.
I had the pleasure of watching three of them that weekend and thinking of our own strength.
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Khloe Kardashian and Infertility
Khloe Kardashian doesn't have infertility.
She's been trying to conceive for three-and-a-half years and hasn't become pregnant. (Definition of infertility is inability to conceive after properly timed sexual intercourse in the time period of one year.)
She is saying that her hormones and timing have been off and that's why it hasn't happened.
Did you ever hear the expression, "If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck"?
Photo: Yusuf C. Flickr Creative Commons
Consider adding these, "If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, eats like a duck, smells like a duck, swims like a duck, sleeps like a duck, maybe, just maybe it's a duck".
I truly do not mean to be flippant. We all come to things in our own time. More than that, none of us likes to be labeled. And certainly not by someone else.
So Khloe Kardashian doesn't consider herself infertile.
And she's certainly not asking my advice or opinion on if she is or isn't infertile.
Luckily, regardless of what she says or doesn't say in the media, she can get help if she needs it. She can see a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist and figure out if there is a problem and then formulate a course of treatment if it's indicated.
She can decide that she does not have infertility and go through fertility treatment and get pregnant and have a baby.
Then will she be right? That she didn't have infertility and all she needed was a little help?
Maybe this is a great model to follow.
Subfertility: Definitions and Labels
I know that Dr. Mark Leondires, Medical Director for RMACT (Reproductive Medicine Associates of CT) talks a lot about subfertility, rather than infertility. And that so much of subfertility is something that can be overcome. Hence why so many women who are labeled infertile end up conceiving, typically with fertility treatment.
And maybe that's really the case, that we are subfertile, rather than infertile. Because after all if we were infertile, we wouldn't get pregnant and have children.
Are we then cured of infertility because we've had children?
What if we want to have a second child and need fertility treatment, even IVF, do we become infertile again? And are we then not infertile if we become pregnant again?
I'm starting to think Khloe has the right idea. Go with she's not infertile. That she's fertile and all she or any of us need, is help in bringing it out. I like that a lot. The term infertility implies a state of being that cannot be changed. And yet, so often, with the right help from a good fertility program, it does change. We become pregnant and leave infertility behind us. At least until next time we decide to have a baby.
How about this?
I like it. It's almost as if your fertility is hiding, just waiting to be asked nicely to come out. Whether it's medications that you need, or IUI's (intrauterine inseminations) or IVF (in vitro fertilization) or more, your fertility is there, laying wait until the right combination is offered to allow it to blossom.
So, yes, maybe fertility challenged.
Whatever you want to call it, a fertility consultation and treatment is a great idea if you haven't gotten pregnant in over a year if you are thirty-five or under. Fertility treatment is a great idea if you are thirty-five and over and have tried to conceive for six months.
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Fertility Counselor Hosts Couples Evening on April 11
Mars and Venus on the Fertility Journey
By Lisa Tuttle
Last night I ran into a couple that I worked with over 7 years ago, when they were patients at RMACT. After exchanging hugs and updates about the present ages and activities of the couple's “miracle babies”, they explained that they were heading out for a “date night”, and they walked away looking as happy as newlyweds.
How thrilling it was to see how far this couple had come from the first time I met them! Part of what I remember most about working with them is that this couple had clearly loved one another so much, and still they had struggled in their efforts to understand and support one another through their fertility journey. It was so sad for them that they were not “on the same page” during that very difficult time; not able to comfort each other as easily as they wanted to, and not coping in the same ways. They participated in the first couple’s workshop that I ever offered at RMACT, and last night they reminded me of how helpful and reassuring that workshop had been for them. How it had allowed them to complete their family-building journey feeling much more connected and comforted by one another.
Infertility Affects Men and Women Differently
One of the sad truths about infertility is that it affects men and women quite differently. At exactly the time that couples could REALLY use each other’s support and understanding the most for infertility, they may find that they are not “getting” each other. I have run support groups for women and support groups for men, and I can tell you that the conversation and concerns of the two groups are quite different! Both groups are experiencing real distress, but the sources of their distress are not the same. For example, women who are struggling to get pregnant are more likely to be preoccupied with the demands of their fertility treatment, the difficulty of being surrounded by fertile friends and co-workers, and fear that treatment will never work. They are more likely to be depressed and anxious. On the other hand, men in this situation tend to be more optimistic that treatment will work, hence they are less anxious and depressed. They tend to be primarily worried about their wives, feeling helpless to make her feel better, feeling guilty for the treatments that she has to endure, and they lament how their lives have been derailed by the process. They often don’t feel the social strain and jealousy of infertility because “pregnancy” and “babies” do not dominate male conversations in the same way that they do for women, so they may not feel the same need to withdraw socially as their wives feel.
To make matters worse, the ways that men and women cope with the stress can be completely opposite…. What is helpful for one partner might actually be hurtful to the other. For example, a wife might find relief in talking about her infertility and the related emotional pain at great length, whereas a husband might find that these conversations only make him feel worse. So no matter how much the husband and wives love each other, and no matter how much they want to “be there” for their spouse, they may find it nearly impossible to get it right.
At these times, it is really helpful for couples to be CLEAR about why this disconnect happens, and how normal it is. It is helpful for men to hear that their wives reactions are “normal”, and for the women to hear that their husbands’ ways of coping are “normal”… so that both sides can be more accepting, and ultimately be more empathetic. It helps couples to feel less upset about the “disconnect”, and to know that it’s not a sign of a bigger problem in their marriage. It helps for men and women to understand why the opposite sex is acting and feeling the way they are, rather than trying to decide which of them is “right”.
A Fertility Seminar for Couples
I’m excited to be offering another couples workshop at RMACT on April 11th, as part of our “A Fertility Seminar for Couples” evening. The fertility journey can be so difficult, but a little understanding can go a long way toward helping couples feel more connected as they travel the road to parenthood… together.
A Former Fertile Yoga Student and Mother Gives Back to Those Struggling With Infertility
There are gifts to be had, even while dealing with infertility. One is learning patience.
One is finding out the strength behind your own commitment to creating your family.
Another could be finding the depth of your love for your partner or spouse.
In Fertile Yoga last week, the gifts were much more specific and concrete.
Once Pregnant, a Former Student Gives Back to the Community
One of our former Fertile Yoga student and RMACT patient, who was successful in becoming pregnant, wanted to give something back to the community. Wanted to offer a gift of hope, encouragement, love and compassion.
She came to me, wanting to know my ideas on a gift that she could give. We went back and forth with ideas, nothing being quite right. Lots of lovely ideas, but not quite what she was looking for; nothing that touched her heart or expressed what she wanted to say to those still struggling.
She and I didn't talk a lot about this. So I don't really know, beyond the superficial, why she wanted to give a gift to the current Fertile Yoga students. I know what she said. I elaborated what she said, in my own mind; to her offering support to those still struggling with infertility. For holding space, having been successful, for those who have not been yet.
The gift she discovered to share, was perfect. Absolutely perfect. I presented them to the class in Norwalk and they were immediately opened and placed on their wrists. They were touched. I was touched. Deep down in our hearts.
A Big Thanks to Our Former Fertile Yoga Student!
Thank you to our former Fertile Yoga student, who took a look behind her and remembered those women still in fertility treatment. Who remembered what it was like to feel fear, jealousy and not know if the outcome would be a baby and the family of our dreams.
The gifts were lovely but not nearly as lovely as simply being remembered. Being thought of; being cared for. That was the true gift.
"I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples." — Mother Teresa
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OB/Gyn's Should Tell You That Getting Pregnant at 28 is Easier Than at 38 or 46
Maybe I've told this story here before. If I have and you've read it, please forgive me. It bears repeating. A good friend of mine, my running partner at the time, was furious at her Obstetrician/Gynecologist (OB/Gyn). She had been in for a routine visit, her yearly exam, and everything was going very well. At least for an OB/Gyn visit, which traditionally is not hugely fun. Nothing was wrong, all the regular tests were run. Questions were asked regarding menstrual cycle, birth control being used, fatigue level, etc.
Etc, though, ended with a few questions that upset my friend. The questions were "Are you planning to have a family? And if so, when were you thinking of starting?" My friend was pissed. Indignant. She thought he had a lot of nerve. That he was nosy. In her business. And she wanted me to agree with her. She expected that I would agree with her.
I didn't. In fact, I believe that my response surprised her even more than her physician asking her those questions did. My response? "The only thing I think horrible about his questions is that he hadn't asked you them twelve years earlier." She had been a patient of his for twelve years. At thirty eight, she had been seeing him since she was twenty six years old. Why on earth had he waited so long?
Just as her doctor had a responsibility to make sure that she was healthy and making good decisions about her reproductive health in other regards, so did he have a responsibility to ensure that she understood the time table about conceiving and creating her family.
The Simple Truth About Infertility
And the simplest truth out there, when it comes to infertility, is that it's far easier to become pregnant in your twenties, early thirties, middle thirties and even upper thirties than it is after that. It's not easy to become pregnant in your forties. It's even harder to become pregnant, on your own, with your own eggs, with a healthy embryo. So, yeah, I was also upset with her doctor. Not because he had asked her about her plans about creating her family. But because he had waited so long to do it.
And please understand something. Not every woman wants to have a baby. Or is planning on having a baby. This isn't about forcing a woman who is not ready or who may never desire a child to have one. This is about being educated. And in this situation, education equaling power.
The power of choice. Wanting to have a family or not. When we wait too long, we have very different choices. Much more difficult ones. And sometimes completely impossible ones. Our doctors should be talking to us about our choices. And if you have a doctor who is doing so, say thank you. Education is power and choice.
Treating Infertility and Harm Reduction - What Habits Can You Change?
Infertility is a pain in the a**. Let's just agree that's true. It's not fun or what you would choose. We give up a lot when it comes to dealing with infertility. Intimacy, privacy, spontaneity and more. Below is a short list of what we talked about last night, that had to be given up for fertility treatment.
No coffee. No cigarettes. No recreational drugs. No artificial sweeteners. Not too much sugar. Not over exercising. No sex for a while after a transfer. No gluten for some of us. No dairy for others. No white flour for most of us.
That's a lot of nots. A LOT.
We know that those are all good things to give up. We all know that giving those things up wil make us healthier. We also know that most people, most women, don't have to give up those things to become pregnant. And it's frustrating. Because we give those things up and we add fertility treatment and it still doesn't work nearly as fast or as easily as we would like. At least most of the time.
Our Fertile Yoga Guilty Pleasures
Last night in Fertile Yoga, we made a list of treats. Delicious, wonderful, non-caloric treats. No guilt (not too much guilt) treats.
Here are a few:
- US magazine (you know who you are!)
- Decaff coffee
- TeenMom 2 television series (I am NOT making this up)
- Gum chewing
- Reading of any kind
- Bubble baths with candles
- Hikes in the wood
- Cuddling our animals
- Declining invitations to plan baby showers
Giving Up Our Bad Habits for Harm Reduction
Then we talked about habits. Specifically "bad" habits. What we'd like to give up or change. A dear friend from long ago wrote about a program called harm reduction. It's an alternative to giving something up entirely or all at once. Harm reduction asks you to look at a behavior, see what's the most destructive and see how you can take it down a whole bunch of levels. (This is me, paraphrasing Harm Reduction. For specifics, if you are interested, please look here.)
What would that mean?
It might mean eating less chocolate, not giving it up entirely. Smoking less cigarattes or using a patch to quit. It might mean adding decaff coffee to regular coffee and switching over gradually. It might mean a hike in the woods instead of a half marathon.
Harm Reduction is a wonderful way of easing off things, if you can do it.
Last night, we all made an agreement of what we would change or shift for the week. We decided to reconvene next week and see how we did.
Except for me. I couldn't think of a bad habit that I wanted to shift or stop. I had no problem coming up with extra treats though, my heart and mind can think of endless treats. So I had some extra work to do last night and this morning. It came to me that one of my bad habits is procrastination or avoidance. Not a big surprise to those who know or live with me. So I found a committment to shift after all.
My committment for the next week, to talk about with the others, is to clean my house forty five minutes a day. Shifting away from avoiding cleaning all together or feeling and trying to do it all at once.
Time to clean house.
We've all made our commitments to shifting behavior for the next week.
Anyone want to join us?
Infertility and Meditation: Deepak Chopra & Oprah Winfrey's Free Meditation Challenge
Infertility and serenity. Infertility and calm. Infertility and inner peace. Infertility and gratitude. Infertility and optimal health. They don't really slip right off the tongue, do they? Those sets of words, seemingly, don't have much to do with one another.
Thinking out loud, it's similar to the idea that when everything is fine, settled, balanced and grounded, I can have those things. Serenity, calm, inner peace, gratitude, optimal health. Those things are possible in the future, when none of the jarring, disturbing, upsetting, difficult or challenging things that are in my life at this moment still exist.
Pause. Breathe. If every single thing in your life that is upsetting disappeared, some other challenge would take it's place. That's life. Life is a series of challenges and joys. A reasonable question is, can you find happiness, contentment, gratitude, serenity, inner peace in this moment?
I can't always. There are plenty of moments in every day of my life that I feel almost consumed by worry, fear and sadness. Or some combination of those three. Every single day of my life, I find those other, more desirable feelings also.
The 21-Day Meditation Challenge
For the last seven days, I've had some help from Deepak Chopra (and Oprah Winfrey). They've put together a twenty one day meditation challenge. Free. About seventeen minutes long. Day seven, yesterday, was about "honoring your body." Each day, there is a centering thought, a Sanskrit mantra, a message of the day, beautiful music, a gorgeous picture and Deepak Chopra leading you into a short, quiet meditation. Day one's title got my attention and held it. "The Journey to Perfect Health." Who wouldn't want that?
I made the commitment to take this meditation challenge, to give myself this gift of eighteen minutes of possibility. So far, I've enjoyed it immensely. Even as my mind chatters all sorts of ridiculous nonsense at me during meditation, I've still felt calmer afterwards.
At my Fertile Yoga Students' Request...
I was asked to blog about this, to share this information with you, by my Fertile Yoga students. These meditations are similar to what we often do in Fertile Yoga, a version of guided meditation and centering your thoughts.
Perhaps it's time to try something new? Something different? Take a turn in the path that you're on? Interested? Register here. For me, it's a wonderful new twist to my own meditation practice. Like adding a special flavor. Let me know what you think.
Infertility Support: The Most & Least Helpful Things to Say About Pregnancy
It's an oldie, but goodie. Unfortunately, some things don't change when it comes to dealing with infertility support. At least, not much. The places we get bombarded by pregnancy anouncements have expanded to social media. That wasn't true five years ago or ten years ago. These days there are very few places to escape hearing and seeing pregnancy news. Facebook these days even has ultrasounds of friends pregnancies. If you could use a little help about what to ask your friends and families to avoid saying, read on. There's something here for you, I guarantee it.
If you having been reading this blog for over a year, the below lists will be unfamiliar to you. If you've read it, maybe now is the time to comment on it, or add to it!
In Fertile Yoga this past weekend, we discussed things that our friends, family and colleagues say that are unhelpful and things that are helpful. I figured now was a good time to reprint this as many of had not seen it. Below is a list similar to what my best friend and I formulated 20 years ago, 17 years ago, 10 years ago, 2 years ago. I remember copying the list and handing it to family members, whether in the words below or in a slightly different form.
Infertile Support: 5 Most Helpful Things to Say
... from a family member or friend | 5 cosas más útil que decir-de un familiar o amigo
I am here to listen, I won't judge or suggest or offer help. I'll just listen. (Estoy aquí para escuchar, no voy a juzgar o sugerir u ofrecer ayuda. Voy a escuchar.)
Whatever you choose to share with me will be kept in the strictest confidence. (Lo que usted decide compartir conmigo se mantendrá en la más estricta confidencialidad.)
I'm here for you no matter what. (Estoy aquí para ustedes, no importa qué.)
I will not pry or ask too many questions. (No voy a curiosear o hacer demasiadas preguntas.)
If you would like some company at the doctor, I will be there for you. (Si desea alguna compañía en el Dr. estaré allí para usted.)
Infertility Support: 10 Things Never to Say
10 cosas que nunca decir
Things happen for a reason. (Las cosas suceden por una razón.)
Maybe God doesn't mean for you to have children. (Tal vez Dios no significa para usted tener hijos.)
Relax and take a vacation, you'll get pregnant! (Relajarse y tomar unas vacaciones, usted quedar embarazada!)
Adopt a baby, and then you'll have your own baby! (Adoptar un bebé, y entonces tendrá su propio bebé!)
You're lucky, you won't have to get huge or be up in the middle of the night. (Tienes suerte, usted no tendrá que conseguir enormes, o estar en medio de la noche.)
Not everyone is meant to have children. (No todo el mundo tiene la intención de tener hijos.)
Be grateful for what you do have. (Sea agradecido por lo que tienen.)
I'll give you one of mine! (Te daré uno de los míos!)
Have puppies, they're easier. (Los cachorros tienen, son más fáciles.)
Have you tried this-treatment-this-doctor-this-herb, I heard it worked for so and so. (¿Has probado este tratamiento-esta-médico-esta hierba, he oído que trabajó para esto y lo otro.)
10 Things I Wish I Could Say About Getting Pregnant
10 Cosas que me gustaría poder decir que en quedar embarazada.
1. I wish I could be fat and pregnant. (Ojalá pudiera ser gorda y embarazada.)
2. I wish I could be exhausted from nursing and being up all night. (Me gustaría poder estar agotada a partir de la enfermería y está toda la noche.)
3. I wish I could celebrate Mother's Day as a Mother. (Me gustaría poder celebrar el Día de las Madres como una Madre.)
4. I wish that I could have a child the old fashioned way. (Ojalá que yo pudiera tener un hijo a la manera antigua.)
5. I wish that I could attend my best friends' baby showers and their children's birthday parties without crying. (Ojalá que yo pudiera asistir duchas de mis mejores amigos 'bebé y los partidos de cumpleaños de sus hijos sin llorar.)
6. I wish everyone could understand how incredibly sad I feel. (Ojalá todo el mundo podía entender cómo me siento increíblemente triste.)
7. I wish I could do the things that I know make me feel better. (Me gustaría poder hacer las cosas que sé que me sienta mejor.)
8. I wish I didn't have to miss work/social engagements/family functions because I need to be at the doctors. (Me gustaría no tener que faltar al trabajo / compromisos sociales / funciones de la familia, porque tengo que estar en el de los médicos.)
9. I wish I didn't have to have to experience another birthday or New Year's without a child. (Me gustaría no tener a la experiencia de otro cumpleaños o Año Nuevo sin un niño.)
10. I wish my nurse would call and tell me that I'm finally pregnant. (Me gustaría que mi enfermera llamada y me dicen que por fin estoy embarazada.)
Thank you to Carrie Van Steen for revising this list and getting it translated. Carrie is also THE person responsible for putting together our Ladies-Night-Out evenings in Danbury and Norwalk. I love our dedicated staff!
What would you like to add? What did we leave out? Come on, you must have a suggestion!