It's not Valentines Day, or Christmas or Saint Patrick's Day. It's President's week, but that hardly counts as a holiday where one indulges oneself. Ok, except for shopping maybe.
Here's what I'm thinking. This is the perfect weekend to indulge you; despite the fact that it's not on a holiday weekend and there's no specific Hallmark card.
Maybe we should start an infertility holiday. Infertility get-aways? There are infertility retreats and such. Maybe an infertility spa? How would these be different than what already exists?
The cards would be different, right? The ones that thought they were funny, such as, "sorry you're having trouble conceiving, want to borrow mine?" or "be grateful you don't have children, you can spend some of your own money". There could be the sentimental ones, "We are hoping and waiting with you for your good news" and "when a family is made of love, even two makes a family complete".
I think that even though there is no special day and no special card, that you should indulge yourself this weekend. It's not uncommon to feel miserable in the middle of experiencing infertility, did you know that? I bet you did! What better reason than to deliberately do something that you know feels good? The downside is that in the middle of fertility treatment and/or an IVF cycle, even those things that usually make you feel good, might not. The upside is that you might feel good! You ok with that? Because indulging yourself might even mean just absolutely wallowing in your misery. Getting all the movies that you love to watch, comfort food, planting yourself on the couch and spending the weekend doing nothing productive what so ever.
If indulging yourself sounds even the slightest bit tempting, then consider it. Your indulgences and mine might be very different, but they connect up to the same place. The pleasure center in your brain and nervous system. And feeling good makes you feel better. Simple, but true.
Personally, I have had a hard week and am looking forward to an indulgence or two. One of my not very secret indulgences is seeing some of you tomorrow in Fertile Yoga. Another is that I have treated myself to tickets to Pilobolus (fabulous dance company) on Saturday night with a dear friend who happens to have a hearty, infectious laugh. A kick butt yoga class on Sunday and I will feel indulged enough. My oldest and closest friend refers to these types of things as "dark chocolate". Not really dark chocolate, just the kinds of things that make you feel that sudden rush of something sweet and uncommon. Not part of your usual day or diet. You know what they are for you.
Maybe you feel that you need to get all your chores done that don't happen during the work week, get caught up with everything that's had to wait, finish projects that you have started, you know, be responsible. Well, I vote for indulgences this weekend, be they big or small.
Be responsible and then indulge yourself anyway.
A reminder for tomorrow:
Primary Infertility Support Group from 11:00-12:30 at our Norwalk office
Led by Lisa Tuttle, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, this group will provide a forum for participants to learn about and discuss the emotional aspects of infertility; provide an opportunity to share their experience and benefit from the support and experience of others, and to develop constructive ways of coping with the emotional challenges of infertility.
All seminars will take place at our
main office at:
10 Glover Avenue, Norwalk, CT
Seminars are $10 per person or $15 per couple
Refreshments will be served
RSVP to Cori at 203-750-7492
Space is limited!!
led by Lisa Rosenthal RYT
20 Glover Avenue, Norwalk CT
777 Federal Road, Brookfield CT